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Be Your Own Mentor – Lecture Notes

Mentor (noun): an experienced and trusted adviser. Synonyms: coach, guide, helper, counselor, consultant.

Consider these questions:
What is important, meaningful to you now? What do you want to learn … change … improve … accomplish.  How would you like to feel? What ignites your passion? What triggers your happiness and joy?

Make a list of your strengths and competencies. Review regularly. Edit and revise as you see fit.
Make a list of well-thought-out outcomes you most desire. Review regularly. Edit and revise as you see fit.

Know your B.S. (Belief System). Do you have a FIXED mindset … or a GROWTH mindset?

Focus on things that you CAN control or manage — choices, attitudes, actions, behaviors, mood, responses.

Take responsibility and accountability for “co-creating” or “shaping” the future you most desire.

Make a list of your own core values/virtues — or TARGET values/virtues. For example: loyalty, dependability, balance, compassion, kindness, generosity, passion, humility, bravery, professionalism, gratitude, flow, love, faith, patience, humor, ambition, optimism, confidence, fitness, wellbeing.

Then, review/reinforce regularly. Research and learn more about ways to demonstrate and embody them.

Compose appropriate “focus phrases” (sayings — proverbs — mottos — affirmations)  Use them as reminders, positive triggers, inspirations, “alignments.”

Write, record, display the reminders and reinforcement that is appropriate to the outcomes you seek.

Make a “To-Feel List” — list of “target” or “most desired” feelings or emotional states. Review regularly.  For example: happy, joyful, proud, enthusiastic, confident, grateful, compassionate, smart, lucky, appreciative, creative, energetic, inspired, calm, hopeful, positive, serene, helpful, loved, loving, valued, euphoric, strong …

Three other very helpful lists: • To-Do List – “Today’s Mission” • Inspiration List • Gratitude Journal

Gather intelligence, take notes. Flipboard. Google Search. Networking. Books. Magazines. TED Talks.

A KEY QUESTION: “What do I want to do, that I WILL do, to increase the likelihood of the outcomes I desire?”

Your goals should be appropriate, realistic, practical … they need to make sense.

To achieve specific goals: Break them down into small, workable steps. “What will I do TODAY?”

And … schedule those tasks and activities on your calendar! Give yourself honest feedback.

“PRACTICE MAKES HABITS” – to create a new habit or ritual, link it to an existing one.

• “What would I advise my dearest friend with the same goals, or challenges that I’m facing?”

• If a highly motivated person was seeking advice and guidance from you, in areas of interest to you … What would you tell them? How would you help them? Would you follow your own best advice?

Be honest with yourself. Be good to yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be self-compassionate.

©2016 Jerry D. Posner

16 for 2016

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Ways To Create Miracles In Your Life – Revised

Ways To Create Miracles In Your Life

By Jerry D. Posner

Here’s a three-step process with a fine track record!

This is the revised version.

Step One:  Pick a miracle — a positive outcome in some area of you life that is important to you.  It could be about business, relationships, finance, family, personal growth, creativity.  I’d suggest a small or medium sized miracle – those are much easier to create!  Write it down.

Step Two:  Make sure you really want it.

Ask yourself “Brain – Heart – Courage” questions, such as:

• What are my thoughts about this miracle?  Are they positive?  Conflicted?

• Can I imagine it, and imagine the impact to my life?

• How much do I want it?

• Does the thought of it make my heart sing?

• Do I have the courage to act?  To risk disappointment?

• Do I have the courage to ask for it?  To accept it?

If you’re happy with your answers, then proceed to …

Step Three:  Eight suggestions or reminders to be practiced, in some appropriate combination, DAILY!

•  Visualize the outcome … and the path to it.  Visualize the steps you need to take.  Break it up into small, smart actions.  Also visualize yourself removing obstacles and solving problems that could come up.

•  Desire it.  Maintain enthusiasm, excitement and emotional focus.

•  Anticipate it.  Expect it.  Believe in it.  Some miracles require faith, hope, and patience.

•  Ask for assistance, and accept the help when it is offered.  Networking, emotional support, cheerleaders, prayer, Google, mentors …

•  Put your miracle on your “to-do” list.  Remind yourself daily.

•  Choose optimism and remember your motivations — your reasons for wanting to create this miracle.

•  Give yourself permission to have it.  You just might be the one blocking it!  Need more deserve-ability?  Simply take a file card, write or print PERMISSION SLIP on it.  Meditate on the card for a minute or two every day.  By the way, you do not have to be a “perfect person” in order to create a miracle.  There’s not one person who has ever received or created a miracle who is a “perfect person.”

•  Make a plan, adjust as necessary. Be aware of feedback that comes from others, and from your own observations.  Evaluate feedback WITHOUT becoming defensive!  Enjoy the process!

PUT YOUR MIND TO IT.

PRACTICE.

STAY THE COURSE.

“There are many millions of people who would say that most everything about your life, right now, is a miracle.

Are you one of them?”

Resolutions and “Focus Phrases” For a Stellar Year – 2011!

21 for 2011

By Jerry Posner


Resolutions and “Focus Phrases” For a Stellar Year!


REMEMBER …


1.      Anticipate life’s tests and the best ways to pass them.

2.      Compassion is always an option.

3.      Confidence just might stack the odds in my favor.

4.      Express curiosity instead of becoming defensive.

5.      Return all phone calls.  Yes, all of them.

6.      Make my mom proud.

7.      Say, “you’re welcome” instead of “no problem.”

8.      Am I worrying for nothing … again?

9.      Moment-to-moment appreciation and gratitude.

10.    Two great answers:  It depends.  You never know.

11.     Another great answer:  I don’t know, but I will find out.

12.    Think twice before broadcasting sarcasm.

13.    Every eye-roll and frown sends a message.

14.    Every smile sends a message, too.

15.    Look for the miracles in everyday life.

16.    Avoid superstitions … unless they work, of course!

17.    Synchronize communication codes.

18.    Ask myself, “what do I keep, what do I throw away?”

19.    Notice and thank the angels amongst us.

20.   Know what I want most, and act accordingly.

21.   Wisdom works better when applied daily.

BE INSPIRED – STAY INSPIRED!

BE INSPIRED – STAY INSPIRED!

When I think about “Man’s Search For Meaning” by Viktor Frankl or “The Last Lecture” by Randy Pauch … or listen to recordings by The Beatles, Susan Boyle, Stevie Wonder … when I see Shawn White snowboard … when I think about my dad and mom’s kindness or my wife’s artistic ability – I’m INSPIRED!

Inspired to believe that “I can do it also.”

Inspired to make my life just a little better than it is now.

Inspired to refrain from complaining.

Inspired to “do the right thing.”

Inspired to help others.

Inspired to stop eating the “worry curry”

Extend the benefits that come from inspiration by remembering and reinforcing the inspiration-triggers.

Suggestion: Make a list –

I’M INSPIRED BY (people, books, music, news):

__________________________________________________________________________________

__________________________________________________________________________________

Read and revise regularly (4-7 days a week)

EVEN BETTER —

I’M INSPIRED BY ____________________ BECAUSE ____________________

I’M INSPIRED BY ____________________ BECAUSE ____________________

I’M INSPIRED BY ____________________ BECAUSE ____________________

I’M INSPIRED BY ____________________ BECAUSE ____________________

I’M INSPIRED BY ____________________ BECAUSE ____________________

SUGGESTION: When you read a book, hear a lecture or watch a video that inspires you:

  1. Write down the key points on a little card.
  2. Look at the little card for a minute or two daily as you feel the feelings that energize you, focus on and remember your goals, vividly imagine the outcomes you desire most … and the steps necessary to achieve them, and feel excited about all this.
  3. Keep doing it.  Create a collection of little cards.
  4. Read those little cards every day.  With attention, not by rote.  Feel the feelings!
  5. I mean it.  Daily.

If this process, and techniques like this, seem a bit dorky to you, we’ll just keep it between us.  No one else has to know.  It can be our secret.

But, will it work?  Try it and see for yourself!

©2010 Jerry D. Posner

I LOVE LISTS!

I LOVE LISTS!

Yes, I love lists.  They keep me focused, remind me of important things, and reinforce my motivations.  Lists are cost-effective, too!

You might have found it useful to keep a “to-do” list of errands you need to run, tasks you have to complete, and projects you need to work on.  Generally, keeping a “to-do” list results in more accomplishments, and over time, a sense of which jobs are important to you … and which aren’t.

So the “to-do” list also provides some valuable feedback and increases self-awareness. And, there is the great pleasure and pride that comes from the accomplishment … followed by the cross-off.

But tasks and accomplishments are just one area of life to manage.  What about emotions?  Beliefs?  Philosophies?

To better manage emotions, you might have good results keeping a “to-feel” list.  On that list, note the emotions you want to feel more of.  Such as: happy, secure, confident, and grateful.  Maybe you want to feel calm, easy, flexible, and smart.  Make a list, review it daily, edit as necessary, and see what happens.  By focusing attention on these things, you might make better choices, and eventually develop habits that support the emotional states you desire.

I also really like keeping a “to-remember” list.  This one might have sayings, quotations, and clichés that remind us how we want to behave and our best philosophical, spiritual and ethical advice to ourselves.

The “to-remember” list can help us ride the ups and downs of life with greater ease.  Here are some examples:

TO REMEMBER

Change is part of life.

Appreciate the moment.

Why worry about things I can’t control?

Notice the good things in my life.

Each moment is a miracle in potential.

Be kind.

Make choices based on the outcomes I most desire.

Tell the people I love, that I love them.

Go with the flow.

Win some, lose some … however, since I’m breathing, I’m a winner!

I find that this kind of daily reinforcement is priceless.  It makes sense.  No cost.  Doesn’t take too much time.  Nothing stopping you!  So, do it.  Put it on your list!