Be Your Own Mentor – Lecture Notes

Mentor (noun): an experienced and trusted adviser. Synonyms: coach, guide, helper, counselor, consultant.

Consider these questions:
What is important, meaningful to you now? What do you want to learn … change … improve … accomplish.  How would you like to feel? What ignites your passion? What triggers your happiness and joy?

Make a list of your strengths and competencies. Review regularly. Edit and revise as you see fit.
Make a list of well-thought-out outcomes you most desire. Review regularly. Edit and revise as you see fit.

Know your B.S. (Belief System). Do you have a FIXED mindset … or a GROWTH mindset?

Focus on things that you CAN control or manage — choices, attitudes, actions, behaviors, mood, responses.

Take responsibility and accountability for “co-creating” or “shaping” the future you most desire.

Make a list of your own core values/virtues — or TARGET values/virtues. For example: loyalty, dependability, balance, compassion, kindness, generosity, passion, humility, bravery, professionalism, gratitude, flow, love, faith, patience, humor, ambition, optimism, confidence, fitness, wellbeing.

Then, review/reinforce regularly. Research and learn more about ways to demonstrate and embody them.

Compose appropriate “focus phrases” (sayings — proverbs — mottos — affirmations)  Use them as reminders, positive triggers, inspirations, “alignments.”

Write, record, display the reminders and reinforcement that is appropriate to the outcomes you seek.

Make a “To-Feel List” — list of “target” or “most desired” feelings or emotional states. Review regularly.  For example: happy, joyful, proud, enthusiastic, confident, grateful, compassionate, smart, lucky, appreciative, creative, energetic, inspired, calm, hopeful, positive, serene, helpful, loved, loving, valued, euphoric, strong …

Three other very helpful lists: • To-Do List – “Today’s Mission” • Inspiration List • Gratitude Journal

Gather intelligence, take notes. Flipboard. Google Search. Networking. Books. Magazines. TED Talks.

A KEY QUESTION: “What do I want to do, that I WILL do, to increase the likelihood of the outcomes I desire?”

Your goals should be appropriate, realistic, practical … they need to make sense.

To achieve specific goals: Break them down into small, workable steps. “What will I do TODAY?”

And … schedule those tasks and activities on your calendar! Give yourself honest feedback.

“PRACTICE MAKES HABITS” – to create a new habit or ritual, link it to an existing one.

• “What would I advise my dearest friend with the same goals, or challenges that I’m facing?”

• If a highly motivated person was seeking advice and guidance from you, in areas of interest to you … What would you tell them? How would you help them? Would you follow your own best advice?

Be honest with yourself. Be good to yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be self-compassionate.

©2016 Jerry D. Posner

15 For 2015 — Daily Reminders for a Stellar Year

15 For 2015
Daily Reminders for a Stellar Year
By Jerry Posner

1.   Sometimes a single act of kindness changes everything.
2.   Appreciate and treasure each moment … especially this one.
3.   Need courage? Recall inspirational people and their deeds.
4.   Preparation reduces fear and shrinks worry.
5.   Angry? Count to twenty, slowly. Still angry? Do it again.
6.   Expect miracles.
(If that doesn’t work, notice the ones that already exist.)
7.   Gratitude: feel it, express it, promote it. Be a grati-tutor!
8.   More facts = better beliefs.
9.   Message from your Future-Self: love more, kvetch less.
10. If it’s too difficult to forgive and forget, just choose one.
11.  Put on your (rational) thinking cap … and leave it on.
12. Courtesy is fundamental, indifference is the enemy.
13. Choose your attitude; many fine options available now.
14. Positive expectations just might skew the odds in your favor.
15. What we do, and how we do it, always matters.

“Since there’s always a choice … choose wisely!”

14 For 2014 — Daily Reminders for a Stellar Year

14 For 2014 — Daily Reminders for a Stellar Year

By Jerry Posner

1. Consider the possibility that nothing is insignificant.

2. A little thanks and appreciation can go a long, long way.

3. Teach people how to love … by example.

4. Count your blessings and write ’em down, a few every day.

5. Do something today that your future-self will thank you for.

6. Know your biases. Dump the crappy ones!

7. Allow for unplanned miracles.

8. Tell at least one person a day, “I love you and I’m glad you’re here.”

9. Good deeds make magic.

10. The best apologies contain no excuses.

11. We owe our existence to the kindness of strangers … and parents.

12. Taking things for granted is the opposite of gratitude — so don’t!

13. Where am I now? Where am I headed? Is a course-correction necessary?

14. Do what makes you feel proud.

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13 for 2013 – Daily Reminders for a Stellar Year

13 For 2013 — Daily Reminders for a Stellar Year
By Jerry Posner

1. Walk, don’t jump to conclusions.

 
2. Feeling stressed? Take a “gratitude break.”

 
3. “Mind the gap” – increase awareness of the space between stimulus and response – and CHOOSE your responses.

 
4. Banish old negative, stupid biases. Nurture groovy ones!

 
5. Generate positive, constructive self-fulfilling prophesies.

 
6. Avoid assumptions – ask good questions … listen carefully.

 
7. Be thankful for the millions and millions of people who do their jobs so we can do ours.

 
8. Great to count blessings, even better to write them down.

 
9. Brightening someone’s day will brighten yours as well.

 
10. Practice doesn’t make perfect … practice makes habits.

 
11. Demonstrate and feel love instead of just talking about it.

 
12. Plant seeds every day. Keep planting. They will eventually sprout. Water them with intention and attention.

 
13. Skate to where the puck is going, not where it’s at. (Gretzky)

 

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12 For 2012 – Daily Reminders for a Stellar Year

12 For 2012 – Daily Reminders for a Stellar Year

by Jerry Posner

 

1.  Keep goals right up front.  Review daily.

2.  Appreciation, forgiveness, compassion: excellent options.

3.  Aim for no regrets.

4.  Increase awareness of stress triggers and disconnect ’em.

5.  Inspire yourself … inspire others.

6.  Inspire others … inspire yourself.

7.  Simple acts of kindness – superb cost/benefit ratio.

8.  Keep a “to-do” list and a “not-to-do” list.

9.  Great daily choices create great habits, that’s what we want.

10. Increase emotional intelligence.  Make a list of feelings you’d like to experience more frequently.  Put your attention on your list once a day.  Edit and revise as you see fit.

11. Express more love than in previous years.

12. Take a daily gratitude break.

13. Give your customer an unexpected little something extra!

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