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Be Your Own Mentor – Lecture Notes

Mentor (noun): an experienced and trusted adviser. Synonyms: coach, guide, helper, counselor, consultant.

Consider these questions:
What is important, meaningful to you now? What do you want to learn … change … improve … accomplish.  How would you like to feel? What ignites your passion? What triggers your happiness and joy?

Make a list of your strengths and competencies. Review regularly. Edit and revise as you see fit.
Make a list of well-thought-out outcomes you most desire. Review regularly. Edit and revise as you see fit.

Know your B.S. (Belief System). Do you have a FIXED mindset … or a GROWTH mindset?

Focus on things that you CAN control or manage — choices, attitudes, actions, behaviors, mood, responses.

Take responsibility and accountability for “co-creating” or “shaping” the future you most desire.

Make a list of your own core values/virtues — or TARGET values/virtues. For example: loyalty, dependability, balance, compassion, kindness, generosity, passion, humility, bravery, professionalism, gratitude, flow, love, faith, patience, humor, ambition, optimism, confidence, fitness, wellbeing.

Then, review/reinforce regularly. Research and learn more about ways to demonstrate and embody them.

Compose appropriate “focus phrases” (sayings — proverbs — mottos — affirmations)  Use them as reminders, positive triggers, inspirations, “alignments.”

Write, record, display the reminders and reinforcement that is appropriate to the outcomes you seek.

Make a “To-Feel List” — list of “target” or “most desired” feelings or emotional states. Review regularly.  For example: happy, joyful, proud, enthusiastic, confident, grateful, compassionate, smart, lucky, appreciative, creative, energetic, inspired, calm, hopeful, positive, serene, helpful, loved, loving, valued, euphoric, strong …

Three other very helpful lists: • To-Do List – “Today’s Mission” • Inspiration List • Gratitude Journal

Gather intelligence, take notes. Flipboard. Google Search. Networking. Books. Magazines. TED Talks.

A KEY QUESTION: “What do I want to do, that I WILL do, to increase the likelihood of the outcomes I desire?”

Your goals should be appropriate, realistic, practical … they need to make sense.

To achieve specific goals: Break them down into small, workable steps. “What will I do TODAY?”

And … schedule those tasks and activities on your calendar! Give yourself honest feedback.

“PRACTICE MAKES HABITS” – to create a new habit or ritual, link it to an existing one.

• “What would I advise my dearest friend with the same goals, or challenges that I’m facing?”

• If a highly motivated person was seeking advice and guidance from you, in areas of interest to you … What would you tell them? How would you help them? Would you follow your own best advice?

Be honest with yourself. Be good to yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be self-compassionate.

©2016 Jerry D. Posner

12 For 2012 – Daily Reminders for a Stellar Year

12 For 2012 – Daily Reminders for a Stellar Year

by Jerry Posner

 

1.  Keep goals right up front.  Review daily.

2.  Appreciation, forgiveness, compassion: excellent options.

3.  Aim for no regrets.

4.  Increase awareness of stress triggers and disconnect ’em.

5.  Inspire yourself … inspire others.

6.  Inspire others … inspire yourself.

7.  Simple acts of kindness – superb cost/benefit ratio.

8.  Keep a “to-do” list and a “not-to-do” list.

9.  Great daily choices create great habits, that’s what we want.

10. Increase emotional intelligence.  Make a list of feelings you’d like to experience more frequently.  Put your attention on your list once a day.  Edit and revise as you see fit.

11. Express more love than in previous years.

12. Take a daily gratitude break.

13. Give your customer an unexpected little something extra!

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Click on the link below to download the card.

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Resolutions and “Focus Phrases” For a Stellar Year – 2011!

21 for 2011

By Jerry Posner


Resolutions and “Focus Phrases” For a Stellar Year!


REMEMBER …


1.      Anticipate life’s tests and the best ways to pass them.

2.      Compassion is always an option.

3.      Confidence just might stack the odds in my favor.

4.      Express curiosity instead of becoming defensive.

5.      Return all phone calls.  Yes, all of them.

6.      Make my mom proud.

7.      Say, “you’re welcome” instead of “no problem.”

8.      Am I worrying for nothing … again?

9.      Moment-to-moment appreciation and gratitude.

10.    Two great answers:  It depends.  You never know.

11.     Another great answer:  I don’t know, but I will find out.

12.    Think twice before broadcasting sarcasm.

13.    Every eye-roll and frown sends a message.

14.    Every smile sends a message, too.

15.    Look for the miracles in everyday life.

16.    Avoid superstitions … unless they work, of course!

17.    Synchronize communication codes.

18.    Ask myself, “what do I keep, what do I throw away?”

19.    Notice and thank the angels amongst us.

20.   Know what I want most, and act accordingly.

21.   Wisdom works better when applied daily.

BE INSPIRED – STAY INSPIRED!

BE INSPIRED – STAY INSPIRED!

When I think about “Man’s Search For Meaning” by Viktor Frankl or “The Last Lecture” by Randy Pauch … or listen to recordings by The Beatles, Susan Boyle, Stevie Wonder … when I see Shawn White snowboard … when I think about my dad and mom’s kindness or my wife’s artistic ability – I’m INSPIRED!

Inspired to believe that “I can do it also.”

Inspired to make my life just a little better than it is now.

Inspired to refrain from complaining.

Inspired to “do the right thing.”

Inspired to help others.

Inspired to stop eating the “worry curry”

Extend the benefits that come from inspiration by remembering and reinforcing the inspiration-triggers.

Suggestion: Make a list –

I’M INSPIRED BY (people, books, music, news):

__________________________________________________________________________________

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Read and revise regularly (4-7 days a week)

EVEN BETTER —

I’M INSPIRED BY ____________________ BECAUSE ____________________

I’M INSPIRED BY ____________________ BECAUSE ____________________

I’M INSPIRED BY ____________________ BECAUSE ____________________

I’M INSPIRED BY ____________________ BECAUSE ____________________

I’M INSPIRED BY ____________________ BECAUSE ____________________

SUGGESTION: When you read a book, hear a lecture or watch a video that inspires you:

  1. Write down the key points on a little card.
  2. Look at the little card for a minute or two daily as you feel the feelings that energize you, focus on and remember your goals, vividly imagine the outcomes you desire most … and the steps necessary to achieve them, and feel excited about all this.
  3. Keep doing it.  Create a collection of little cards.
  4. Read those little cards every day.  With attention, not by rote.  Feel the feelings!
  5. I mean it.  Daily.

If this process, and techniques like this, seem a bit dorky to you, we’ll just keep it between us.  No one else has to know.  It can be our secret.

But, will it work?  Try it and see for yourself!

©2010 Jerry D. Posner

Recycled Ponderables #1 (cool quotations)

“You are perfect as you are, and you could use a little work.”

Shunryu Suzuki-Roshi


“The future in flux always is.”

Yoda.


“If you don’t have confidence, you’ll always find a way not to win.”

Carl Lewis


“You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face.”

Eleanor Roosevelt


“It is a bit embarrassing to have been concerned with the human problem all one’s life and find at the end that one has no more to offer by way of advice than ‘try to be a little kinder.'”

Aldous Huxley


“If you want to change the world, you have to change the metaphor.”

Joseph Campbell


“The only difference between a rut and a grave are the dimensions.”

Ellen Glasgow


“You are what you repeatedly do. Excellence is not an event — it is a habit.”

Aristotle


“Diamonds are nothing more than chunks of coal that stuck to their jobs.”

Malcolm Forbes