by Jerry Posner
First, some questions to ask yourself:
In my life, how would I define “good luck” or “miracles?”
Do I believe in the possibility of those favorable outcomes?
What could I do that would increase the likelihood of the outcomes I most desire?
How much control or influence do I have, to skew the “odds” in my favor?
Am I interested in creating trends … or specific outcomes … or both?
Write down goals and desired outcomes. Review daily. Edit as you see fit.
Consider the trajectory, causal factors, that resulted in already experienced miracles or “good luck.”
Be intentional with choices. Long term or short term outcomes? Patience is often necessary.
(Every outcome results in more outcomes. There is always “what will happen next?”)
Create as many positive relationships as possible. Be kind, polite, generous, helpful, compassionate.
Self-identify as a “lucky” or “grateful” or “blessed” person. See yourself as a “probability engineer.”
Be a very good listener. Be open to new experiences.
Be present and aware of your surroundings. Notice “chance” opportunities that often arise.
Placebos and “good luck charms” have been known to influence behavior, mindset and outcomes.
Self-fulfilling prophecies, based on belief, can influence actions. Choose positive expectations.
Take advantage of “freerolls.” “The key feature of a freeroll is limited downside, meaning there isn’t much to lose, but there might be a lot to gain.” (Annie Duke)
Maybe you ARE the luckiest person in the room!
It’s good to have an open mind, but not SO open that your brains fall out! Cultivate realistic optimism.
Mentor (noun): an experienced and trusted adviser. Synonyms: coach, guide, helper, counselor, consultant.
Consider these questions:
What is important, meaningful to you now? What do you want to learn … change … improve … accomplish. How would you like to feel? What ignites your passion? What triggers your happiness and joy?
Make a list of your strengths and competencies. Review regularly. Edit and revise as you see fit.
Make a list of well-thought-out outcomes you most desire. Review regularly. Edit and revise as you see fit.
Know your B.S. (Belief System). Do you have a FIXED mindset … or a GROWTH mindset?
Focus on things that you CAN control or manage — choices, attitudes, actions, behaviors, mood, responses.
Take responsibility and accountability for “co-creating” or “shaping” the future you most desire.
Make a list of your own core values/virtues — or TARGET values/virtues. For example: loyalty, dependability, balance, compassion, kindness, generosity, passion, humility, bravery, professionalism, gratitude, flow, love, faith, patience, humor, ambition, optimism, confidence, fitness, wellbeing.
Then, review/reinforce regularly. Research and learn more about ways to demonstrate and embody them.
Compose appropriate “focus phrases” (sayings — proverbs — mottos — affirmations) Use them as reminders, positive triggers, inspirations, “alignments.”
Write, record, display the reminders and reinforcement that is appropriate to the outcomes you seek.
Make a “To-Feel List” — list of “target” or “most desired” feelings or emotional states. Review regularly. For example: happy, joyful, proud, enthusiastic, confident, grateful, compassionate, smart, lucky, appreciative, creative, energetic, inspired, calm, hopeful, positive, serene, helpful, loved, loving, valued, euphoric, strong …
Three other very helpful lists: • To-Do List – “Today’s Mission” • Inspiration List • Gratitude Journal
Gather intelligence, take notes. Flipboard. Google Search. Networking. Books. Magazines. TED Talks.
A KEY QUESTION: “What do I want to do, that I WILL do, to increase the likelihood of the outcomes I desire?”
Your goals should be appropriate, realistic, practical … they need to make sense.
To achieve specific goals: Break them down into small, workable steps. “What will I do TODAY?”
And … schedule those tasks and activities on your calendar! Give yourself honest feedback.
“PRACTICE MAKES HABITS” – to create a new habit or ritual, link it to an existing one.
• “What would I advise my dearest friend with the same goals, or challenges that I’m facing?”
• If a highly motivated person was seeking advice and guidance from you, in areas of interest to you … What would you tell them? How would you help them? Would you follow your own best advice?
Be honest with yourself. Be good to yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be self-compassionate.
©2016 Jerry D. Posner
Grati-Tuesday Missives — January, February, March 2016
Grati-Tuesday Greetings, 1/5/16! Thank you, furnace! Thank you, space heater! Thank you, propane! Thank you, hot water! Thank you, electricity!
Grati-Tuesday Greetings, 1/12/16! Reasons to feel grateful? Reasons to be thankful? Reasons to express appreciation? Yes, many!
Grati-Tuesday Greetings: 1/19/16! Gratitude, thankfulness and appreciation – foundations of a meaningful day. Feel it! Express it!
Grati-Tuesday, 1/26/16: More gratitude = _____________.
Grati-Tuesday Greetings, 2/2/16! What goes in your gratitude journal? Things in your life that make you smile. People you love. People that love you. Privileges, blessings and gifts.
Grati-Tuesday Greetings, 2/9/16! “Silent gratitude isn’t very much to anyone.” — Gertrude Stein
Grati-Tuesday Greetings 2/16/16! If you’re reading these words, you have much to be grateful for. Hot and cold running water? Electricity? Food and shelter? Take a minute to acknowledge the good stuff. (Makes it easier to navigate the tough stuff.)
Grati-Tuesday Greetings, 2/23/16! Breathe in and think, “I’m grateful I can breathe.” Then, exhale and think, “I’m grateful I can breathe.” Repeat for 60 seconds, and notice where your mind goes next.
Grati-Tuesday Greetings – 3/1/16! “Grateful for the compassionate, caring, constructive people whose lives impact ours.”
Grati-Tuesday Greetings – 3/8/16! From time to time, let your heart overflow with gratitude. How about now? Facebook will still be here when you’re done.
Grati-Tuesday Greetings – 3/15/16! “I would maintain that thanks are the highest form of thought; and that gratitude is happiness doubled by wonder.” — G.K. Chesterton
Grati-Tuesday Greetings – 3/22/16! Add some gratitude to your attitude (as desired or as necessary).
Grati-Tuesday Greetings – 3/29/16! Gratitude and appreciation to the elementary and high school teachers! Thank you for your service!
Grati-Tuesdays November/December 2015
11/3/15 Grati-Tuesday! “When I look for reasons to feel grateful, I find hundreds, if not thousands. Sure beats self-pity!”
11/10/15 Grati-Tuesday! Think of just one thing that you’re grateful for. It doesn’t have to be the thing you’re MOST grateful for, just any one thing. Okay, two things. Just two things that make you feel sincerely thankful. Alright … three
11/17/15 Grati-Tuesday Greetings! Gratitude for blessings we are privileged to enjoy, help us maintain balance … especially during tough times.
11/24/15 Grati-Tuesday Greetings! Thanksgiving is this Thursday. Why wait? Be thankful now!
12/1/15 It’s Grati-Tuesday! An intentional gratitude practice, like a daily gratitude journal, doesn’t guarantee miracles … but CAN increase their likelihood.
12/8/15 Grati-Tuesday Greetings! Savor this moment. Gratitude. Thankfulness. Appreciation. Perspective. Balance.
12/15/15: Grati-Tuesday Greetings! “Gratitude bestows reverence, allowing us to encounter everyday epiphanies, those transcendent moments of awe that change forever how we experience life and the world.” — John Milton
Grati-Tuesday 12/22/15: When times are stressful and busy, it’s especially helpful to take a “gratitude break!” How about right now?
12/29/15: Grati-Tuesday Greetings! “A thankful heart is not only the greatest virtue, but the parent of all the other virtues.” – Cicero
16 for 2016
Daily Reminders for a Stellar Year
Be your best self (especially when other people aren’t being theirs).
Challenge old, outdated fears with a dose of rational thinking.
If you had all the facts, you’d probably have a different opinion.
Allow for the unplanned miracles; and savor them!
Information is power. Ditto gratitude, compassion, forgiveness.
If worrying isn’t helping, then take a different approach!
Appreciate and honor each moment, including the tough ones.
Your life has more meaning than you can possibly know.
Patience is always an excellent option.
We owe our existence to millions of people we’ll never meet.
Sometimes the best thing to do, is to not make it worse.
Social media is inspirational … if you have inspiring friends.
Choose your impact; communicate accordingly.
The “secrets of success” are “common sense” in action.
When you recognize wisdom, act on it (or at least take notes).
Perhaps, the path you’ve been searching for is the path you’re on.