73 Questions For Self-Awareness
Topic Sentences For Journaling
What do I need? What do I want? What do I prefer? What’s the difference?
On what does my self-esteem depend?
What makes me feel happy? What makes me feel sad? What makes me feel good about myself?
What makes me feel bad about myself? What makes me feel strong? What makes me feel weak?
What makes me feel powerful? And, how much control over these things, do I have?
What makes me angry? What makes me lose my cool? What annoys me? What troubles me?
What delights me? What fascinates me? What uplifts me? Where do I experience awe?
How is my life meaningful? How is my life significant? How would I want to change the world?
How can I be of service? How can I help? Do I ask for assistance when I could surely use it?
What is my job? What is my duty? What are my obligations? What’s required of me?
Where am I great? Where do I do the most good? Where is some work-on-self necessary?
Whom do I love? How do I love? How do I express love? How do I accept love?
Who loves me? How is love expressed to me? Do I notice and recognize love?
Do I have permission to be loved? What does love mean?
Do I communicate clearly and accurately? Are my communications appropriate?
Do I say, what I want to say? Do I say, what I need to say? Am I a conscious communicator?
Are there any phrases or expressions that I’d like to eliminate from my repertoire?
Am I a good listener? Am I patient with others? Do I ask good questions at the right times?
How do I sound? What messages do my facial expression transmit?
What do I believe? What do I need to believe? What do I want to believe?
What do I prefer to believe? What are my habits of belief? Where did my beliefs originate?
What can I control that I want to control?
Can I forgive others? Can I forgive myself?
What do I remember, what do I forget?
What can I learn from?
What can I change?
What stays the same?
What can I modify?
What can I improve?
What are the most desired outcomes?
What is the probability of those outcomes?
How can I increase the probability of those outcomes?
What is my life really about?
by Jerry Posner
First, some questions to ask yourself:
In my life, how would I define “good luck” or “miracles?”
Do I believe in the possibility of those favorable outcomes?
What could I do that would increase the likelihood of the outcomes I most desire?
How much control or influence do I have, to skew the “odds” in my favor?
Am I interested in creating trends … or specific outcomes … or both?
Write down goals and desired outcomes. Review daily. Edit as you see fit.
Consider the trajectory, causal factors, that resulted in already experienced miracles or “good luck.”
Be intentional with choices. Long term or short term outcomes? Patience is often necessary.
(Every outcome results in more outcomes. There is always “what will happen next?”)
Create as many positive relationships as possible. Be kind, polite, generous, helpful, compassionate.
Self-identify as a “lucky” or “grateful” or “blessed” person. See yourself as a “probability engineer.”
Be a very good listener. Be open to new experiences.
Be present and aware of your surroundings. Notice “chance” opportunities that often arise.
Placebos and “good luck charms” have been known to influence behavior, mindset and outcomes.
Self-fulfilling prophecies, based on belief, can influence actions. Choose positive expectations.
Take advantage of “freerolls.” “The key feature of a freeroll is limited downside, meaning there isn’t much to lose, but there might be a lot to gain.” (Annie Duke)
Maybe you ARE the luckiest person in the room!
It’s good to have an open mind, but not SO open that your brains fall out! Cultivate realistic optimism.
Intentional gratitude practices can have a multitude of benefits … when we do them!
The “Grati-Tools” are suggestions for ways to increase awareness of our blessings and privileges, (the ones that already exist), resulting in a multitude of potential benefits – emotionally, behaviorally, neurologically, physiologically, etc.
Your mileage may vary, but the likelihood of benefit is high.
Intentional gratitude practices – “Grati-Tools” – some possible results:
* experiencing more positive feelings, moods, and emotions associated with gratitude.
* more sincere expressions of gratitude, appreciation, thankfulness.
* gaining new perspectives that could catalyze improvements in multiple areas of life.
* literally increasing happiness and well-being; short and long term.
Grati-Tool #1: Gratitude For Those Who Touched My Life
List ten people (or animal companions) from your past or present, who have positively contributed to your life. Those you love, who’ve helped you in some way, mentors, teachers … those who deserve your thanks and appreciation. Once a week, read your list and add ten more names. Think about what you would write to them in a thank-you note. And, maybe … write that note!
• Make an ongoing list of your best teachers, professors, mentors, coaches, advisors.
• Make an ongoing list of people you love and people you’ve ever loved,
people who love you, and people who’ve ever loved you.
• Make an ongoing list of people whom you’ve forgiven, and people you’d like to forgive.
• Make an ongoing list of musicians, writers, poets and artists who’ve inspired you.
• Make an ongoing list of businesspeople, social activists, change agents and heroes who’ve inspired you.
Choose to experiment with the one or the ones you like most.
Revisit and add to them, as you’d like to. Over time, you’ll remember more!
Have fun as you gain some new perspectives!
Mentor (noun): an experienced and trusted adviser. Synonyms: coach, guide, helper, counselor, consultant.
Consider these questions:
What is important, meaningful to you now? What do you want to learn … change … improve … accomplish. How would you like to feel? What ignites your passion? What triggers your happiness and joy?
Make a list of your strengths and competencies. Review regularly. Edit and revise as you see fit.
Make a list of well-thought-out outcomes you most desire. Review regularly. Edit and revise as you see fit.
Know your B.S. (Belief System). Do you have a FIXED mindset … or a GROWTH mindset?
Focus on things that you CAN control or manage — choices, attitudes, actions, behaviors, mood, responses.
Take responsibility and accountability for “co-creating” or “shaping” the future you most desire.
Make a list of your own core values/virtues — or TARGET values/virtues. For example: loyalty, dependability, balance, compassion, kindness, generosity, passion, humility, bravery, professionalism, gratitude, flow, love, faith, patience, humor, ambition, optimism, confidence, fitness, wellbeing.
Then, review/reinforce regularly. Research and learn more about ways to demonstrate and embody them.
Compose appropriate “focus phrases” (sayings — proverbs — mottos — affirmations) Use them as reminders, positive triggers, inspirations, “alignments.”
Write, record, display the reminders and reinforcement that is appropriate to the outcomes you seek.
Make a “To-Feel List” — list of “target” or “most desired” feelings or emotional states. Review regularly. For example: happy, joyful, proud, enthusiastic, confident, grateful, compassionate, smart, lucky, appreciative, creative, energetic, inspired, calm, hopeful, positive, serene, helpful, loved, loving, valued, euphoric, strong …
Three other very helpful lists: • To-Do List – “Today’s Mission” • Inspiration List • Gratitude Journal
Gather intelligence, take notes. Flipboard. Google Search. Networking. Books. Magazines. TED Talks.
A KEY QUESTION: “What do I want to do, that I WILL do, to increase the likelihood of the outcomes I desire?”
Your goals should be appropriate, realistic, practical … they need to make sense.
To achieve specific goals: Break them down into small, workable steps. “What will I do TODAY?”
And … schedule those tasks and activities on your calendar! Give yourself honest feedback.
“PRACTICE MAKES HABITS” – to create a new habit or ritual, link it to an existing one.
• “What would I advise my dearest friend with the same goals, or challenges that I’m facing?”
• If a highly motivated person was seeking advice and guidance from you, in areas of interest to you … What would you tell them? How would you help them? Would you follow your own best advice?
Be honest with yourself. Be good to yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be self-compassionate.
©2016 Jerry D. Posner