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MY CANCER ADVENTURE – Episode 11 – “Am I Cured?”

MY CANCER ADVENTURE
Episode 11
“Am I Cured?”

Confirmation biasthe tendency to find evidence that supports or confirms one’s beliefs, expectations, notions, points-of-view, etc. This bias can be positive or negative, constructive or destructive.

Self-fulfilling prophecya statement or mindset that modifies or alters behaviors and actions, to become true. Self-fulfilling prophecies can also be positive or negative, constructive of destructive.

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During the follow-up visit with my surgeon, I asked him, “When people ask if I’m cured, what should I say?”

He replied, “probably.”

The likelihood of being cancer-free after my surgery is very, very high, but it can’t be determined with absolute certainty … yet.

I will have a PSA test twice yearly for five years.

At the beginning of this adventure, I made a prophecy: “somehow this will make me a better person.” I could have just as easily predicted that my life would be miserable, and I suppose I could have created that outcome as well.

In the mean time, I am feeling quite good and except for a couple of ‘plumbing’ issues (which will resolve in time), functioning normally.

I am fortunate. This is my chosen “confirmation bias” – created and nurtured over 30 years of consciously choosing optimism over pessimism. Though I was not always successful, the long-term positive outlook eventually became my brain’s default setting.

Good thing.

I could see myself as an “unlucky” person to have had cancer … or a “lucky” person to have caught it early enough, before it spread beyond the prostate.

When you decide to see yourself as a fortunate, blessed, “lucky” person … you will find evidence everywhere! This may take some practice, but it’s definitely worth it – especially during challenging times. Easiest way? Once a day, write down five things that make you feel grateful.

This will probably be the last chapter in “My Cancer Adventure” series for a while. If there are any significant updates, I will keep you, my valued friends and readers, in the loop.

And speaking of valued friends and readers … I am so very grateful for your kind and generous support. Your prayers and positive thoughts mean the world to me. Most of all, my wife Lynne gets the lion’s share of the credit for the relative smoothness of this “adventure.” Our five-year wedding anniversary is next month – truly the very best five years of my life.

Much love,
Jerry

PS: I have created a new workshop and keynote speech for businesses, organizations and events – WAYS TO SUCCESSFULLY NAVIGATE ADVERSITY: What To Do When Things Don’t Exactly Go Your Way. If you’re interested, send me an e-mail – posgroup@aol.com

Thanks, and very best wishes to you and yours!

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MY CANCER ADVENTURE – Episode Two – “Tell Them”

MY CANCER ADVENTURE

EPISODE TWO
Tell Them

I am lucky.

I was diagnosed last Friday. I began this blog yesterday. The outpouring of
support and advice has been so heartwarming, that much of the sting and initial
shock has been greatly softened.

A husband of a business friend who navigated prostate cancer was extremely
generous sharing his research and experience, as was a friend and neighbor who
also went through it. Later today, I’ll be speaking to an old high school buddy
who grew up to be a respected doctor. So, yeah, I’m getting some good input.

My insurance provider, Fallon, has a “Peace of Mind” program that would involve
my getting a second opinion from a specialist in Boston. I was also happy to
hear that Dana-Farber, Mass General and other top institutions are in their
network.

The obvious lesson is: when facing a challenging situation, don’t keep it a
secret. Tell your friends and allies.

This is “Grati-Tuesday” — the day of the week to especially focus on gratitude.
Feeling it. Expressing it. Perhaps doing a little gratitude journaling or
meditation (“Gratitude Break”).

I am grateful that I have no symptoms, early diagnosis, lots of support, some
terrific jobs booked for June, and most of all, a smart and loving wife.

Love to you all.

My new book is published!

I am delighted that my new book, ETERNAL COSMIC WISDOM AT BARGAIN BASEMENT PRICES is available on Amazon.com … and also available for the Kindle. Deep, lighthearted, profound and fun … all the the same time! But most of all – practical.

The book:

http://www.amazon.com/Eternal-Cosmic-Wisdom-Bargain-Basement/dp/1466214392/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1319385733&sr=8-3

The Kindle version:

http://www.amazon.com/Eternal-Cosmic-Bargain-Basement-ebook/dp/B005X9TX74/ref=pd_rhf_dp_p_t_2

Ways To Create Miracles In Your Life – Revised

Ways To Create Miracles In Your Life

By Jerry D. Posner

Here’s a three-step process with a fine track record!

This is the revised version.

Step One:  Pick a miracle — a positive outcome in some area of you life that is important to you.  It could be about business, relationships, finance, family, personal growth, creativity.  I’d suggest a small or medium sized miracle – those are much easier to create!  Write it down.

Step Two:  Make sure you really want it.

Ask yourself “Brain – Heart – Courage” questions, such as:

• What are my thoughts about this miracle?  Are they positive?  Conflicted?

• Can I imagine it, and imagine the impact to my life?

• How much do I want it?

• Does the thought of it make my heart sing?

• Do I have the courage to act?  To risk disappointment?

• Do I have the courage to ask for it?  To accept it?

If you’re happy with your answers, then proceed to …

Step Three:  Eight suggestions or reminders to be practiced, in some appropriate combination, DAILY!

•  Visualize the outcome … and the path to it.  Visualize the steps you need to take.  Break it up into small, smart actions.  Also visualize yourself removing obstacles and solving problems that could come up.

•  Desire it.  Maintain enthusiasm, excitement and emotional focus.

•  Anticipate it.  Expect it.  Believe in it.  Some miracles require faith, hope, and patience.

•  Ask for assistance, and accept the help when it is offered.  Networking, emotional support, cheerleaders, prayer, Google, mentors …

•  Put your miracle on your “to-do” list.  Remind yourself daily.

•  Choose optimism and remember your motivations — your reasons for wanting to create this miracle.

•  Give yourself permission to have it.  You just might be the one blocking it!  Need more deserve-ability?  Simply take a file card, write or print PERMISSION SLIP on it.  Meditate on the card for a minute or two every day.  By the way, you do not have to be a “perfect person” in order to create a miracle.  There’s not one person who has ever received or created a miracle who is a “perfect person.”

•  Make a plan, adjust as necessary. Be aware of feedback that comes from others, and from your own observations.  Evaluate feedback WITHOUT becoming defensive!  Enjoy the process!

PUT YOUR MIND TO IT.

PRACTICE.

STAY THE COURSE.

“There are many millions of people who would say that most everything about your life, right now, is a miracle.

Are you one of them?”

A Self-motivational Experiment

A self-motivational experiment:

 

Get 4 file cards. Label them:

“5 people who love me.”

“5 people who truly inspire me.”

“5 things that make me very happy.”

“5 feelings/emotions I want to feel more of.”

Make your lists.

Read and think about them once daily.

See what happens after a month!

Stack the odds in your favor

Create positive emotional connections – express unconditional kindness – and skew the probability of positive outcomes in your favor. No guarantees, but better odds than the mega millions, I’d say.

Miracle-Making Made Easy?

WILL IT WORK FOR YOU?

Visualize miracles, and the path to them.

Desire miracles – emotional focus.

Expect miracles – no worries.

Notice miracles – tune selective perception.

Appreciate miracles – the small and the large.

Give yourself permission to accept miracles – you don’t have to be a “perfect” person.

And take practical steps to increase their likelihood – make a plan, revise as necessary.

Ask for assistance when appropriate, and accept the help when offered.

Have fun 🙂