16 for 2016 – Text Version

16 for 2016
Daily Reminders for a Stellar Year

Be your best self (especially when other people aren’t being theirs).

Challenge old, outdated fears with a dose of rational thinking.

If you had all the facts, you’d probably have a different opinion.

Allow for the unplanned miracles; and savor them!

Information is power. Ditto gratitude, compassion, forgiveness.

If worrying isn’t helping, then take a different approach!

Appreciate and honor each moment, including the tough ones.

Your life has more meaning than you can possibly know.

Patience is always an excellent option.

We owe our existence to millions of people we’ll never meet.

Sometimes the best thing to do, is to not make it worse.

Social media is inspirational … if you have inspiring friends.

Choose your impact; communicate accordingly.

The “secrets of success” are “common sense” in action.

When you recognize wisdom, act on it (or at least take notes).

Perhaps, the path you’ve been searching for is the path you’re on.

Grati-Tuesday Missives: August – October 2015

Grati-Tuesday Missives: August – October 2015

8/4/15 Grati-Tuesday! The bummers don’t have to trump the blessings. Perspective and attitude shape our story. Keep gratitude prominently in the mix! And compassion.

8/11/15 Celebrate Grati-Tuesday! Start your day with gratitude, thankfulness, appreciation. Feel it, express it, share it!

8/18/15 Grati-Tuesday! On easy days, average days and hard days; take some time to express gratitude for the things that DO work, and the privileges that you DO have. A little gratitude can change the picture … especially so, on the harder days.

8/25/15 Grati-Tuesday! “We must find time to stop and thank the people who make a difference in our lives.” — John F. Kennedy. (This is an ongoing project!)

9/1/15 Grati-Tuesday Haiku.
Exude gratitude:
brighten mood, not platitude,
benefits accrued.

9/7/15 (Labor Day) Gratitude to the people who do their jobs, so we can have the quality of life that we’re privileged to enjoy. If we made a list of them, we’d be writing all day.

9/8/15 Grati-Tuesday! A Gratitude Meditation: Breathe deeply, and appreciate where you are, what you are, and what you have. Repeat often.

9/15/15 Grati-Tuesday Greetings! “A thankful heart is not only the greatest virtue, but the parent of all the other virtues.” – Cicero. Spend some time with gratitude today.

9/22/15 Grati-Tuesday! “Remembering to be grateful is a form of emotional intelligence” (neuroscience researcher Alex Korb). Be smart … feel grateful!

9/29/15 Grati-Tuesday! “Silent gratitude isn’t very much to anyone.” –Gertrude Stein. So, express it … tell it … show it!

10/6/15 Grati-Tuesday! Three things to feel gratitude for (in random order): 1. You can breathe. 2. You have Internet access. 3. You are loved.

10/13/15 Grati-Tuesday! Add some gratitude to your day! “Gratitude is the sign of noble souls.” – Aesop.

10/20/15 Grati-Tuesday! “Give gratitude equal time, in your mind!”

10/27/15 Grati-Tuesday! Right where you are now, take a minute and slowly look around. Do you notice anything at all that you could feel grateful for? Thought so!

 

 

Grati-Tuesdays With Jerry

Grati-Tuesdays With Jerry

Here is a collection of Grati-Tuesday missives I’ve written on my Facebook wall. Every Tuesday, I post a reminder to focus some attention on the good things we’re privileged to experience … the gifts, the blessings, the miracles, the random “good fortune” that sometimes comes our way. Useful any day of the week, not just Tuesday.

“If you don’t get everything you want, think of the things you don’t get, that you don’t want.” — Oscar Wilde

Grati-Tuesday. Celebrate the wonderful, amazing things … celebrate the simple, functional things! Celebrate your unique life!

Having a pity-party? About to pout?
Make gratitude choices instead, no doubt.
Change your focus. Appreciate the good.
And feel that groovy gratitude!
Grati-Tuesday!

Grati-Tuesday! How many miracles do we simply take for granted? Love? WiFi? Hummingbirds? Life itself? Gratitude and Appreciation are the happiness twins.

Grati-Tuesday! Gratitude felt … appreciation expressed.

Grati-Tuesday Greetings! Great to count your blessings. Even better to write them down, four or five daily. This practice can yield significant positive results over time.

Grati-Tuesday! Even on challenging days, there’s much to appreciate, much to feel grateful for. Makes difficult times a little easier to navigate.

Grati-Tuesday! We owe our lives to many. Some that we knew, and untold millions we will never know. Include gratitude in your daily ritual. You won’t regret it!

Grati-Tuesday! “Gratitude bestows reverence, allowing us to encounter everyday epiphanies, those transcendent moments of awe that change forever how we experience life and the world.” — John Milton

Grati-Tuesday! Sincere expressions of appreciation and gratitude can significantly brighten someone’s day – especially those whose service, kindness or love is all too often taken for granted.

Grati-Tuesday! “Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.” — Epicurus

Grati-Tuesday! Get your meetings off on a positive note – have everyone share one thing that makes them feel truly grateful.

Grati-Tuesday! “Gratitude is the gateway to greatness!” (Tavis Smiley)

Grati-Tuesday Greetings! “Let us be grateful to people who make us happy; they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.” – Marcel Proust. Nicely said, Marcel!

Having challenges? Try this: make a list of 20 good things about your life, things that you’re genuinely grateful for or happy about. This exercise won’t eliminate the tough stuff, but could give you a more empowering perspective.

“I am grateful for what I am and have. My thanksgiving is perpetual. It is surprising how contented one can be with nothing definite — only a sense of existence.” — Henry David Thoreau

Grati-Tuesday Greetings! A little daily gratitude practice can result in significantly positive outcomes!

“Grati-Tuesday” greetings! Today, write and send a thank-you note to someone who deeply deserves your appreciation and gratitude.

“It’s a sign of mediocrity when you demonstrate gratitude with moderation.”
— Roberto Benigni

Grati-Tuesday Greetings! Gratitude and appreciation – foundations of an excellent day. Feel it, express it, share it. Be a grati-tutor!

Grati-Tuesday! Feelings of gratitude can help us keep some balance during challenging or stressful times. Take a “gratitude break” a few times daily – remember the good things that already exist – then, navigate onward!

Grati-Tuesday! 2 … 4 … 6 … 8 … Who and what do you appreciate? Just ponder this for a minute.

Grati-Tuesday Greetings! “Don’t it always seem to go, that you don’t know what you’ve got ’till it’s gone.” — Joni Mitchell. Electricity, running water, wifi, cell service — hoping we don’t lose ’em, grateful we have ’em!

Grati-Tuesday Greetings! Just take a minute, right now, and let yourself feel grateful for your friends and family; for your resources; for that which is fortunate in your life. Not a bad way to start the day!

Grati-Tuesday Greetings! Sincere expressions of gratitude and appreciation are great gifts! And, there’s a never ending supply of them!

Grati-Tuesday! “At times, our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person. Each of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us.” — Albert Schweitzer

Grati-Tuesday! Grateful to be working … grateful to be earning … grateful to be helping … grateful to be serving!

Grati-Tuesday! Tell the people you’re grateful for, that you are, and why. Tell the people you love, that you do, and why. Don’t wait.

Grati-Tuesday! It’s great to read the “Gratitudes” on so many Facebook walls. They inspire positive feelings for the readers … and the writer!

I find it next to impossible to not feel gratitude.

The Grati-Tools

Practicing the Practical Power of Gratitude

(This is a repeat of earlier material … but you can’t have enough gratitude, I think!)

Intentional gratitude practices – “Grati-Tools”
* to experience more of the positive feelings, moods, emotions associated with gratitude.
* to encourage sincere expressions of gratitude, appreciation, thankfulness.
* to gain new perspectives that could create or catalyze improvements in multiple areas of life.
• to literally increase happiness and well-being; short and long term.

Grati-Tool #1: Gratitude For Those Who Touched My Life
List ten people (or animal companions) from your past or present, who have positively contributed to your life. Those you love, who’ve helped you in some way, mentors, teachers … those who deserve your thanks and appreciation. Once a week, read your list and add ten more names. Think about what you would write to them in a thank-you note. And, maybe … write that note!

Grati-Tool #2: The Gratitude Walk
Take a walk (short or long), and notice all the things that you could conceivably be grateful for.
Such as: life itself, pavement, electricity, trees, traffic lights, cars, sky, eyesight … the things that work.
Consider how your life, and everything in it, might be seen as gifts.

Grati-Tool #3: Liberally and Sincerely EXPRESS Appreciation To Those Who Surely Deserve It
• Say “thank you,” “I appreciate you and what you did,” “good job!” … etc.
• Tell the people you love that you love them.
• Send thank-you notes. • Pay a gratitude visit.

Grati-Tool #4: Observe “Grati-Tuesdays”
Just for fun, make Tuesday the day of the week when you particularly focus on gratitude practice(s).
Or … “Thank You Thursdays” — the day you especially express gratitude to others.

Grati-Tool #5: The Gratitude Journal (a.k.a. “Gratitude Diary” … “Gratitude List”)
Once a day, or even once a week, write down things, people, relationships, circumstances, feelings, abilities, talents, blessings, etc. that you feel grateful for. Three, four, five or more. Be specific.
Even better: also write why!

Grati-Tool #6: Happy Birthday – Grateful For Another Year!
Make a gratitude list on your birthday, with one item for each year of your life.

Grati-Tool #7: Take a Gratitude Break
Close your eyes … relax … and for one minute, focus your attention on a person, thing, circumstance, situation, accomplishment, talent, ability, etc. that you’re truly and deeply grateful for. If you can, imagine/visualize him … her … it. If your mind wanders, just bring it back. FEEL the gratitude and happiness as you focus your attention. Making a mental movie, or creating a mental collage – also fine! Do it once a day, or when you feel stressed or petty!

©2015 Jerry D. Posner  • http://www.jerryposner.com •  You can’t lose … with gratitude!

Ways to Make 2015, Your Best Year! — Lecture Notes

Ways to Make 2015, Your Best Year! – Lecture Notes

We start with who we are, where we are, what we have to work with … NOW!

Attitude, perspective, point-of-view might be just as important as the “things
that happen.”

What might be some elements of ‘your best year?’

What is important, meaningful to you now?

What would you like to change … improve … accomplish?

How would you like to feel?

What ignites your passion?

What triggers your happiness and joy?

Focus on the things that you CAN control or manage.                                                                                Choices, attitudes, actions, behaviors, etc.

Seek the appropriate balance between PLEASURE and PURPOSE.

“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to
choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” — Dr. Viktor Frankl

So … MIND THE GAP!

Emotions are contagious!

You can catch them, and others can catch them from you!
So, it pays to manage emotions, to know what you’re feeling and your emotional targets.

Make a “To-Feel List” — List of feelings or emotional states you want more often. Review regularly.
For example: happy, joyful, proud, enthusiastic, confident, grateful,
compassionate, smart, lucky, appreciative, creative, energetic, professional,
calm, hopeful, positive, serene, helpful, loved, valued.

Three other very helpful lists:
• To-Do List (of course!) – Today’s Mission
• Gratitude Journal
• Inspiration List

Choose a few key words/short phrases – THEMES – to influence attitude, mood, behavior, choices.
Some examples: Listen. Love more. Compassion. Kindness. Calm. Gratitude.
Grace. Faith. Flow. Patience. Acceptance. Balance. Forgiveness. Resilience. Rational.
Honesty. Mindfulness. Ambition. Courage. Laugh more. Eat healthy. Optimism. Serenity. Exercise. Meditate. Peace. Walk, don’t jump, to conclusions. Confidence.  Joy.  Service.

To achieve specific goals: Break them down into small, workable steps.

“What will I do TODAY?”
“PRACTICE MAKES HABITS” – to create a new habit, link it to an existing one.

These “R’s” could help!
Recognize (what you need to do, think, feel. Having a practical plan is smart)
Remember (write down the goal and your action plan. Read it daily)
Reinforce (with action … practice … repetition … reward yourself)
Review (observe results and feedback … modify your plan as needed or desired)
Repeat (the stuff that works best for you)

“Do something. If it works, do more of it. If it doesn’t, do something else.”
— Franklin D. Roosevelt

15 For 2015 — Daily Reminders for a Stellar Year

15 For 2015
Daily Reminders for a Stellar Year
By Jerry Posner

1.   Sometimes a single act of kindness changes everything.
2.   Appreciate and treasure each moment … especially this one.
3.   Need courage? Recall inspirational people and their deeds.
4.   Preparation reduces fear and shrinks worry.
5.   Angry? Count to twenty, slowly. Still angry? Do it again.
6.   Expect miracles.
(If that doesn’t work, notice the ones that already exist.)
7.   Gratitude: feel it, express it, promote it. Be a grati-tutor!
8.   More facts = better beliefs.
9.   Message from your Future-Self: love more, kvetch less.
10. If it’s too difficult to forgive and forget, just choose one.
11.  Put on your (rational) thinking cap … and leave it on.
12. Courtesy is fundamental, indifference is the enemy.
13. Choose your attitude; many fine options available now.
14. Positive expectations just might skew the odds in your favor.
15. What we do, and how we do it, always matters.

“Since there’s always a choice … choose wisely!”

A Very Generous Testimonial Re: My Life-Management Coaching

I first met Jerry at Canyon Ranch for his “Gratitude” presentation, and from that first hour in his presence, I knew he was someone who had the potential to be an impactful mentor and help me finally change my outlook on life. What I didn’t know at that time was how profound the experience would be, and how my husband would also decide to work with him, and in the end, how meaningful Jerry’s insights would be in our future together as a married couple.

What Jerry helped my husband with most, is realizing that he (we all) has the power to change his life by the choices he makes each and every day…. from the very small and mundane to the large and complicated.

I also found that Jerry’s way of coaching made what seemed like Mt. Everest-type obstacles in the past, start to seem like something that was clear, manageable and something I felt comfortable navigating. Taking true accountability was something Jerry taught me. He helped us start learning how to respond to each situation life hands us with compassion and intention. After 4-5 sessions with Jerry (which is generally a short time if comparing to a therapist), our lives have already drastically changed by changing our choices. In our house we now say “What Would Jerry Do?!”

Important Note: This IS a process… I’d like to say he is a “magician” but the tools he gives you must be used and practiced in order to get the desired results.

Jerry’s pearls of wisdom are like an angel on your shoulder in the toughest of times.

He redefines the word coach because there’s not just instruction, there is inspiration. He has given us the tools/resources and perspective to choose to create the best life we can for ourselves. We finished our sessions with Jerry feeling energized, informed, and ready to conquer whatever life has to throw at us. We are stronger as a couple more than ever, and it has connected us on a whole new level.

Intentional Gratitude Practices – Thanksgiving 2014

Practicing the Practical Power of Gratitude

Thanksgiving, 2014

Intentional gratitude practices – “Grati-Tools”
* to experience more of the positive feelings, moods, emotions associated with gratitude.
* to encourage sincere expressions of gratitude, appreciation, thankfulness.
* to gain new perspectives that could create or catalyze improvements in multiple areas of life.
* to literally increase happiness and well-being; short and long term.

Grati-Tool #1:  Gratitude For Those Who Touched My Life
List ten people (or animal companions) from your past or present, who have positively contributed to your life. Those you love, who’ve helped you in some way, mentors, teachers … those who deserve your thanks and appreciation. Once a week, read your list and add ten more names.  Think about what you would write to them in a thank-you note.  And, maybe … write that note!

Grati-Tool #2:  The Gratitude Walk
Take a walk (short or long), and notice all the things that you could conceivably be grateful for.
Such as:  life itself, pavement, electricity, trees, traffic lights, cars, sky, eyesight … the things that work.

Consider how your life, and everything in it, might be seen as gifts.

Grati-Tool #3:  Liberally and Sincerely EXPRESS Appreciation To Those Who Surely Deserve It
•  Say “thank you,” “I appreciate you and what you did,” “good job!” … etc.
•  Tell the people you love that you love them.
•  Send thank-you notes.  •  Pay a gratitude visit.

Grati-Tool #4:  Observe “Grati-Tuesdays”
Just for fun, make Tuesday the day of the week when you particularly focus on gratitude practice(s).

Or … “Thank You Thursdays” — the day you especially express gratitude to others.

Grati-Tool #5:  The Gratitude Journal (a.k.a. “Gratitude Diary” … “Gratitude List”)
Once a day, or even once a week, write down things, people, relationships, circumstances, feelings, abilities, talents, blessings, etc. that you feel grateful for. Three, four, five or more.  Be specific.

Even better: also write why!

Grati-Tool #6:  Happy Birthday – Grateful For Another Year!
Make a gratitude list on your birthday, with one item for each year of your life.

Grati-Tool #7:  Take a Gratitude Break
Close your eyes … relax … and for one minute, focus your attention on a person, thing, circumstance, situation, accomplishment, talent, ability, etc. that you’re truly and deeply grateful for.  If you can, imagine/visualize him … her … it.  If your mind wanders, just bring it back. FEEL the gratitude and happiness as you focus your attention.  Making a mental movie, or creating a mental collage – also fine!  Do it once a day, or when you feel stressed or petty!

©2014 Jerry D. Posner  •  posgroup@aol.com  •  http://www.jerryposner.com

You can’t lose … with gratitude!