Be Your Own Mentor – Lecture Notes

Mentor (noun): an experienced and trusted adviser. Synonyms: coach, guide, helper, counselor, consultant.

Consider these questions:
What is important, meaningful to you now? What do you want to learn … change … improve … accomplish.  How would you like to feel? What ignites your passion? What triggers your happiness and joy?

Make a list of your strengths and competencies. Review regularly. Edit and revise as you see fit.
Make a list of well-thought-out outcomes you most desire. Review regularly. Edit and revise as you see fit.

Know your B.S. (Belief System). Do you have a FIXED mindset … or a GROWTH mindset?

Focus on things that you CAN control or manage — choices, attitudes, actions, behaviors, mood, responses.

Take responsibility and accountability for “co-creating” or “shaping” the future you most desire.

Make a list of your own core values/virtues — or TARGET values/virtues. For example: loyalty, dependability, balance, compassion, kindness, generosity, passion, humility, bravery, professionalism, gratitude, flow, love, faith, patience, humor, ambition, optimism, confidence, fitness, wellbeing.

Then, review/reinforce regularly. Research and learn more about ways to demonstrate and embody them.

Compose appropriate “focus phrases” (sayings — proverbs — mottos — affirmations)  Use them as reminders, positive triggers, inspirations, “alignments.”

Write, record, display the reminders and reinforcement that is appropriate to the outcomes you seek.

Make a “To-Feel List” — list of “target” or “most desired” feelings or emotional states. Review regularly.  For example: happy, joyful, proud, enthusiastic, confident, grateful, compassionate, smart, lucky, appreciative, creative, energetic, inspired, calm, hopeful, positive, serene, helpful, loved, loving, valued, euphoric, strong …

Three other very helpful lists: • To-Do List – “Today’s Mission” • Inspiration List • Gratitude Journal

Gather intelligence, take notes. Flipboard. Google Search. Networking. Books. Magazines. TED Talks.

A KEY QUESTION: “What do I want to do, that I WILL do, to increase the likelihood of the outcomes I desire?”

Your goals should be appropriate, realistic, practical … they need to make sense.

To achieve specific goals: Break them down into small, workable steps. “What will I do TODAY?”

And … schedule those tasks and activities on your calendar! Give yourself honest feedback.

“PRACTICE MAKES HABITS” – to create a new habit or ritual, link it to an existing one.

• “What would I advise my dearest friend with the same goals, or challenges that I’m facing?”

• If a highly motivated person was seeking advice and guidance from you, in areas of interest to you … What would you tell them? How would you help them? Would you follow your own best advice?

Be honest with yourself. Be good to yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be self-compassionate.

©2016 Jerry D. Posner

A Very Generous Testimonial Re: My Life-Management Coaching

I first met Jerry at Canyon Ranch for his “Gratitude” presentation, and from that first hour in his presence, I knew he was someone who had the potential to be an impactful mentor and help me finally change my outlook on life. What I didn’t know at that time was how profound the experience would be, and how my husband would also decide to work with him, and in the end, how meaningful Jerry’s insights would be in our future together as a married couple.

What Jerry helped my husband with most, is realizing that he (we all) has the power to change his life by the choices he makes each and every day…. from the very small and mundane to the large and complicated.

I also found that Jerry’s way of coaching made what seemed like Mt. Everest-type obstacles in the past, start to seem like something that was clear, manageable and something I felt comfortable navigating. Taking true accountability was something Jerry taught me. He helped us start learning how to respond to each situation life hands us with compassion and intention. After 4-5 sessions with Jerry (which is generally a short time if comparing to a therapist), our lives have already drastically changed by changing our choices. In our house we now say “What Would Jerry Do?!”

Important Note: This IS a process… I’d like to say he is a “magician” but the tools he gives you must be used and practiced in order to get the desired results.

Jerry’s pearls of wisdom are like an angel on your shoulder in the toughest of times.

He redefines the word coach because there’s not just instruction, there is inspiration. He has given us the tools/resources and perspective to choose to create the best life we can for ourselves. We finished our sessions with Jerry feeling energized, informed, and ready to conquer whatever life has to throw at us. We are stronger as a couple more than ever, and it has connected us on a whole new level.

A Nice Article About My Personal Coaching/Consulting Practice

Thanks to Debbi Kickham for this very nice testimonial!

Have a problem? Can’t make a decision? Want to reduce stress? Dealing with change? Need a more positive outlook on life? How about just overcoming inertia? Or reducing conflict?

In my view, there’s nobody  — and no life coach anywhere — who can assist you with those challenges better than my friend and colleague Jerry Posner.  I met Jerry a couple of years ago, when he gave an engaging presentation at Canyon Ranch in Lenox, Mass., the award-winning spa where he has presented more than 1,500 motivational and inspirational programs since 1993.

Everything Jerry says will inspire you to live your best life, and to become a victorious – and positive – winner in all of your endeavors.  His techniques are jam-packed with insightful, compassionate, and right-on advice, and I speak from experience.  He has offered me terrific words of wisdom – and homework – to assist me in making my wonderful life even better.

Jerry does his coaching via phone and email – and at very reasonable rates.  Convenient and most definitely cost-effective!

One of my favorite lessons from him harkens right back to a much-loved movie: The Wizard Of Oz.  Jerry says that in order to succeed in life, you really do need a brain, heart – and courage. And he’ll show you how to use these three forces to turn your life around and overcome obstacles.

Jerry not only is a motivational speaker, but he is also a professional development and customer-service trainer for clients in all industries. As a keynote speaker, he is humorous, insightful, enjoyable, entertaining and compelling. He is also the most positive person I have ever met!

If you’re stuck and need assistance and advice that is positive – and totally practical for your personal life or your business -start the conversation by sending Jerry an email:

jerryposner@icloud.com

Your first consultation is free, but his smart strategies are invaluable.