2011 – Your Best Year Ever? A suggestion.

To increase the likelihood of 2011 being your best year ever, here’s a suggestion:  Make two lists:  1.  “What I really, really want in my life.”  2.  “What I really, really don’t want in my life.”  (Materially, financially, spiritually, emotionally, work related, relationship and family related, etc.)  Read daily.  Edit as necessary, and remember to ask yourself, “why?”  Then, do the necessary work – inner and outer.

Resolutions and “Focus Phrases” For a Stellar Year – 2011!

21 for 2011

By Jerry Posner


Resolutions and “Focus Phrases” For a Stellar Year!


REMEMBER …


1.      Anticipate life’s tests and the best ways to pass them.

2.      Compassion is always an option.

3.      Confidence just might stack the odds in my favor.

4.      Express curiosity instead of becoming defensive.

5.      Return all phone calls.  Yes, all of them.

6.      Make my mom proud.

7.      Say, “you’re welcome” instead of “no problem.”

8.      Am I worrying for nothing … again?

9.      Moment-to-moment appreciation and gratitude.

10.    Two great answers:  It depends.  You never know.

11.     Another great answer:  I don’t know, but I will find out.

12.    Think twice before broadcasting sarcasm.

13.    Every eye-roll and frown sends a message.

14.    Every smile sends a message, too.

15.    Look for the miracles in everyday life.

16.    Avoid superstitions … unless they work, of course!

17.    Synchronize communication codes.

18.    Ask myself, “what do I keep, what do I throw away?”

19.    Notice and thank the angels amongst us.

20.   Know what I want most, and act accordingly.

21.   Wisdom works better when applied daily.

A Bit of Forgiveness

All-Purpose FORGIVENESS TOOLS by Jerry Posner


Forgiveness for my own worst mistakes,

forgiveness to the neighbor who forgets to return my rake.

Forgiveness for dads, moms, sisters. brothers,

forgiveness for bad bosses and stock market losses.

Forgiveness for my own human imperfections,

forgiveness for abandonments and rejections.

Who gets FORGIVEN?

Mama and Daddy-O.

Friends.

Some enemies, too.

Loved ones who died.

The good people I’ve rejected.

Everyone else, if I want

Moi.

Knuckleheads and Boopsies

Insecure Shrinking Violets and Insecure Control Freaks

The Sad Man

Offspring, Siblings, Queens and Kings

Drama Geeks and Icarus Wings

Lousy Bosses

The Wayward Humiliators

Bad Dancers

Flower Blooming Hippies

Why FORGIVE?

It transforms EVERY relationship!  That’s right!  Just one act of forgiveness sets the famed “butterfly effect” into motion, and ALL relationships are given a positive boost (sometimes small, sometimes huge) since YOU are also giving yourself the positive boost!

It makes you feel really great!

It is excellent karma.

It changes mental focus, putting things into a more workable perspective, and sometimes triggering fits of cosmic consciousness enlightenment along with uninhibited happy-dancing!

Just goes to show you just how much transformational power you really do have!

FORGIVENESS PROMOTES LOVE

Thoughtfulness promotes love.

“Being the bigger person” promotes love.

Empathy, caring and compassion promote love.

Understanding, self and otherwise, promotes love.

Love promotes love.

Having fun, promotes love.

“Letting it go,” promotes love … and a feeling of healing.

WAYS TO PARTICIPATE IN THE GREAT FORGIVENESS:

1.  Get a little card and write, “I love and forgive  _________________.

Fill in the blank with the name of the person you’d most like to forgive.  Read the card three times daily.  FEEL the forgiveness as you read it.

2.  Think:  FIX, NOT FAULT.

3.  Go easy on the drama.

4.  Repeat this Stuart-Smalley-sounding mantra for five or ten minutes, two or three times daily:  I forgive myself.  My self forgives me.  I forgive others, and others forgive me.

Another one:  I am an electrode of love and forgiveness.

5.  Remember that I sometimes project the movie of my own nonsense on the movie screens of others, and that it might be a good idea to stop it.

6.  Pretend that you are truly and finally forgiven for your blunders, and that your job on Earth is to forgive everyone else for theirs.  This is just a “pretend” exercise, please don’t debate me on this one.  Thank you!

7.  Be at peace.  Relax.  Breathe.  Think positive thoughts.  Have an ice cream.  Lactose intolerant?  Have a cookie!

BE INSPIRED – STAY INSPIRED!

BE INSPIRED – STAY INSPIRED!

When I think about “Man’s Search For Meaning” by Viktor Frankl or “The Last Lecture” by Randy Pauch … or listen to recordings by The Beatles, Susan Boyle, Stevie Wonder … when I see Shawn White snowboard … when I think about my dad and mom’s kindness or my wife’s artistic ability – I’m INSPIRED!

Inspired to believe that “I can do it also.”

Inspired to make my life just a little better than it is now.

Inspired to refrain from complaining.

Inspired to “do the right thing.”

Inspired to help others.

Inspired to stop eating the “worry curry”

Extend the benefits that come from inspiration by remembering and reinforcing the inspiration-triggers.

Suggestion: Make a list –

I’M INSPIRED BY (people, books, music, news):

__________________________________________________________________________________

__________________________________________________________________________________

Read and revise regularly (4-7 days a week)

EVEN BETTER —

I’M INSPIRED BY ____________________ BECAUSE ____________________

I’M INSPIRED BY ____________________ BECAUSE ____________________

I’M INSPIRED BY ____________________ BECAUSE ____________________

I’M INSPIRED BY ____________________ BECAUSE ____________________

I’M INSPIRED BY ____________________ BECAUSE ____________________

SUGGESTION: When you read a book, hear a lecture or watch a video that inspires you:

  1. Write down the key points on a little card.
  2. Look at the little card for a minute or two daily as you feel the feelings that energize you, focus on and remember your goals, vividly imagine the outcomes you desire most … and the steps necessary to achieve them, and feel excited about all this.
  3. Keep doing it.  Create a collection of little cards.
  4. Read those little cards every day.  With attention, not by rote.  Feel the feelings!
  5. I mean it.  Daily.

If this process, and techniques like this, seem a bit dorky to you, we’ll just keep it between us.  No one else has to know.  It can be our secret.

But, will it work?  Try it and see for yourself!

©2010 Jerry D. Posner

I LOVE LISTS!

I LOVE LISTS!

Yes, I love lists.  They keep me focused, remind me of important things, and reinforce my motivations.  Lists are cost-effective, too!

You might have found it useful to keep a “to-do” list of errands you need to run, tasks you have to complete, and projects you need to work on.  Generally, keeping a “to-do” list results in more accomplishments, and over time, a sense of which jobs are important to you … and which aren’t.

So the “to-do” list also provides some valuable feedback and increases self-awareness. And, there is the great pleasure and pride that comes from the accomplishment … followed by the cross-off.

But tasks and accomplishments are just one area of life to manage.  What about emotions?  Beliefs?  Philosophies?

To better manage emotions, you might have good results keeping a “to-feel” list.  On that list, note the emotions you want to feel more of.  Such as: happy, secure, confident, and grateful.  Maybe you want to feel calm, easy, flexible, and smart.  Make a list, review it daily, edit as necessary, and see what happens.  By focusing attention on these things, you might make better choices, and eventually develop habits that support the emotional states you desire.

I also really like keeping a “to-remember” list.  This one might have sayings, quotations, and clichés that remind us how we want to behave and our best philosophical, spiritual and ethical advice to ourselves.

The “to-remember” list can help us ride the ups and downs of life with greater ease.  Here are some examples:

TO REMEMBER

Change is part of life.

Appreciate the moment.

Why worry about things I can’t control?

Notice the good things in my life.

Each moment is a miracle in potential.

Be kind.

Make choices based on the outcomes I most desire.

Tell the people I love, that I love them.

Go with the flow.

Win some, lose some … however, since I’m breathing, I’m a winner!

I find that this kind of daily reinforcement is priceless.  It makes sense.  No cost.  Doesn’t take too much time.  Nothing stopping you!  So, do it.  Put it on your list!

Got Resolutions? 20 For 2010

20 FOR 2010

by Jerry Posner

GOT RESOLUTIONS?

Pick your favorite focus-phrases and review daily!

I WANT TO EVOLVE … AND SO I RESOLVE TO …

1.    notice what’s right in my world … and what needs fixing.

2.    approach great ideas as tools, not just fine notions.

3.    be here now. (Right place – right time – right mind)

4.    observe my belief systems.  Empowering or limiting?

5.    make a list of “what makes me happy.”  Read daily.

6.    make a list of “ways to make others happy.”  Read daily.

7.    be flexible … but keep the backbone.

8.    maximize kismet.

9.    ask myself “What really matters?” a few times daily.

10.  think of people who inspire bravery and greatness.

11.  awaken gratefully, hopefully, and delightedly.

12.  exercise the skills of being helpful.

13.  avoid grouchy posturing no matter what I’m thinking.

14.  reverse direction before “crossing the line.”

15.  remember: some miracles just take practice.

16.  feel love and gratitude – express love and gratitude.

17.  happily pay it forward.

18.  treasure each moment, including this one.

19.  use the word “impossible” with great caution.

20.  make my choices based on the outcomes I most desire

Daily Awareness Exercise – A Way To Upgrade Brain Software

Daily Awareness Exercise – A Way To Upgrade Brain Software  by Jerry D. Posner

There are only six simple steps … try it daily for 21 days.

If you’d like to tweak a few habitual thought patterns … and upgrade the brain software, then this is for you!

Read these cliche-like reminders (“focus phrases”) and ponder them for a minute or two … but do it daily for 21 days.

As you play with this process, keep a pad or journal handy, and jot down any revelations, great ideas, or your own cliche-like “focus phrases” that come to mind.

THE DAILY AWARENESS EXERCISERead and ponder the following six phrases:

1. There are ways that I can remember and practice points-of-view, behaviors, beliefs and actions that give optimal results, especially when I know what results I’m seeking.

2. I can evaluate my own beliefs and habits with compassion and a cool head.

3. I can make changes as necessary, especially when my desire is clear and strong.

4. I see the wisdom in liberally expressing gratitude and appreciation.

5. It is possible for me to evaluate feedback without becoming defensive.

6. I can have some fun every day; it will probably make me less annoying.

New Year’s Resolutions Nearing the Halfway Point

Jerry’s Annual Positive Resolutions for 2009
By Jerry D. Posner


New Year Resolutions for 2009.

To increase my positive opportunities, I RESOLVE TO:
1. choose my battles wisely
2. stop fretting and DO SOMETHING about it
3. help people stay positive by being positive
4. stay excited and passionate about my goals
5. express abundant appreciation and gratitude
6. use adversity as fuel for re-prioritizing
7. evaluate feedback without becoming defensive
8. make small and medium-sized miracles
9. recognize and abolish pessimism
10. stay strong and flexible, like the trees
11. improve emotional navigational skills
12. show up on time … at the very latest
13. face imaginary fears and tell them to take a hike
14. shop for great ideas, and write them down
15. add the personal touch
16. practice random and systematic acts of kindness
17. experience the ‘helpers high’ — service with a smile
18. refrain from ‘nickel and dime-ing’ the universe
19. have more fun – everyone will benefit
20. transmit love, receive love, be love in action

Simple reminders can have an amazing positive impact on thinking, feeling, behavior, day-to-day life, and of course, the future!

Use one or more of these focus phrases (or write your own), and see what positive results you’ll find!

The Power of Cliche-like Wisdom

The Power of Cliche-like Wisdom

By Jerry Posner, The Posner Group

 

“Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication.”

                   Leonardo DaVinci

 

Does profound, transformative wisdom have to be complicated, arcane and nebulous? 

 

I say no.

 

In 30 years of research and 20 years of teaching, I can say with reasonable certainty that for the most people, most of the time, the simple stuff works the best.

 

Simple stuff is easy to remember, easy to practice.  It often doesn’t take enormous effort to make small, smart changes that can have huge positive results.

 

ASK YOURSELF …

 

If I “choose my battles wisely” will I battle less?  Would that be a good thing?

 

If I “think before I speak” will my relationships be smoother?  Will I be more likely to succeed in my career?

 

If I “make my choices based on the outcomes I most desire” will I have better outcomes?  Will I have a greater chance of getting what I want, and being who I want to be?

 

If I keep a gratitude journal — also known as “Five Good Things” — (every day, write down five things in life that I’m grateful for), will I have a happier life?  Will I feel more grateful, more secure, more confident?  Will I be less annoying? (LOL)

 

Do clichés contain the most practical wisdom of all? 

 

Maybe so – if we REMEMBER those little sayings … repeat or reinforce them enough to affect our behavior, choices and habits … and thus, set into motion causes and effects that will really make a positive difference in life.

 

Why not?  It’s easy … can be fun … great cost/benefit ratio!