73 Questions For Self-Awareness — Topic Sentences For Journaling

73 Questions For Self-Awareness

Topic Sentences For Journaling

What do I need? What do I want? What do I prefer? What’s the difference?

On what does my self-esteem depend?

What makes me feel happy? What makes me feel sad? What makes me feel good about myself?

What makes me feel bad about myself? What makes me feel strong? What makes me feel weak?

What makes me feel powerful? And, how much control over these things, do I have?

What makes me angry? What makes me lose my cool? What annoys me? What troubles me?

What delights me? What fascinates me? What uplifts me? Where do I experience awe?

How is my life meaningful? How is my life significant? How would I want to change the world?

How can I be of service? How can I help? Do I ask for assistance when I could surely use it?

What is my job? What is my duty? What are my obligations? What’s required of me?

Where am I great? Where do I do the most good? Where is some work-on-self necessary?

Whom do I love? How do I love? How do I express love? How do I accept love?

Who loves me? How is love expressed to me? Do I notice and recognize love?

Do I have permission to be loved? What does love mean?

Do I communicate clearly and accurately? Are my communications appropriate?

Do I say, what I want to say? Do I say, what I need to say? Am I a conscious communicator?

Are there any phrases or expressions that I’d like to eliminate from my repertoire?

Am I a good listener? Am I patient with others? Do I ask good questions at the right times?

How do I sound? What messages do my facial expression transmit?

What do I believe? What do I need to believe? What do I want to believe?

What do I prefer to believe? What are my habits of belief? Where did my beliefs originate?

What can I control that I want to control?

Can I forgive others? Can I forgive myself?

What do I remember, what do I forget?

What can I learn from?

What can I change?

What stays the same?

What can I modify?

What can I improve?

And, why?

What are the most desired outcomes?

What is the probability of those outcomes?

How can I increase the probability of those outcomes?

What is my life really about?

SOME THOUGHTS ON MIRACLES, LUCK AND THE BUTTERFLY EFFECT

by Jerry Posner

First, some questions to ask yourself:

In my life, how would I define “good luck” or “miracles?”

Do I believe in the possibility of those favorable outcomes?

What could I do that would increase the likelihood of the outcomes I most desire?

How much control or influence do I have, to skew the “odds” in my favor? 

Am I interested in creating trends … or specific outcomes … or both?

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Write down goals and desired outcomes.  Review daily.  Edit as you see fit.

Consider the trajectory, causal factors, that resulted in already experienced miracles or “good luck.”

Be intentional with choices. Long term or short term outcomes?  Patience is often necessary.

(Every outcome results in more outcomes.  There is always “what will happen next?”)

Create as many positive relationships as possible.  Be kind, polite, generous, helpful, compassionate.

Self-identify as a “lucky” or “grateful” or “blessed” person.  See yourself as a “probability engineer.”

Be a very good listener.  Be open to new experiences.

Be present and aware of your surroundings.  Notice “chance” opportunities that often arise.

Placebos and “good luck charms” have been known to influence behavior, mindset and outcomes.

Self-fulfilling prophecies, based on belief, can influence actions.  Choose positive expectations.

Take advantage of “freerolls.”  “The key feature of a freeroll is limited downside, meaning there isn’t much to lose, but there might be a lot to gain.”  (Annie Duke)

Maybe you ARE the luckiest person in the room!

It’s good to have an open mind, but not SO open that your brains fall out!  Cultivate realistic optimism.

©2020 Jerry D. Posner  •  jerryposner@icloud.com  •  http://www.jerryposner.com 

Be Your Own Mentor – Lecture Notes

Mentor (noun): an experienced and trusted adviser. Synonyms: coach, guide, helper, counselor, consultant.

Consider these questions:
What is important, meaningful to you now? What do you want to learn … change … improve … accomplish.  How would you like to feel? What ignites your passion? What triggers your happiness and joy?

Make a list of your strengths and competencies. Review regularly. Edit and revise as you see fit.
Make a list of well-thought-out outcomes you most desire. Review regularly. Edit and revise as you see fit.

Know your B.S. (Belief System). Do you have a FIXED mindset … or a GROWTH mindset?

Focus on things that you CAN control or manage — choices, attitudes, actions, behaviors, mood, responses.

Take responsibility and accountability for “co-creating” or “shaping” the future you most desire.

Make a list of your own core values/virtues — or TARGET values/virtues. For example: loyalty, dependability, balance, compassion, kindness, generosity, passion, humility, bravery, professionalism, gratitude, flow, love, faith, patience, humor, ambition, optimism, confidence, fitness, wellbeing.

Then, review/reinforce regularly. Research and learn more about ways to demonstrate and embody them.

Compose appropriate “focus phrases” (sayings — proverbs — mottos — affirmations)  Use them as reminders, positive triggers, inspirations, “alignments.”

Write, record, display the reminders and reinforcement that is appropriate to the outcomes you seek.

Make a “To-Feel List” — list of “target” or “most desired” feelings or emotional states. Review regularly.  For example: happy, joyful, proud, enthusiastic, confident, grateful, compassionate, smart, lucky, appreciative, creative, energetic, inspired, calm, hopeful, positive, serene, helpful, loved, loving, valued, euphoric, strong …

Three other very helpful lists: • To-Do List – “Today’s Mission” • Inspiration List • Gratitude Journal

Gather intelligence, take notes. Flipboard. Google Search. Networking. Books. Magazines. TED Talks.

A KEY QUESTION: “What do I want to do, that I WILL do, to increase the likelihood of the outcomes I desire?”

Your goals should be appropriate, realistic, practical … they need to make sense.

To achieve specific goals: Break them down into small, workable steps. “What will I do TODAY?”

And … schedule those tasks and activities on your calendar! Give yourself honest feedback.

“PRACTICE MAKES HABITS” – to create a new habit or ritual, link it to an existing one.

• “What would I advise my dearest friend with the same goals, or challenges that I’m facing?”

• If a highly motivated person was seeking advice and guidance from you, in areas of interest to you … What would you tell them? How would you help them? Would you follow your own best advice?

Be honest with yourself. Be good to yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be self-compassionate.

©2016 Jerry D. Posner

15 For 2015 — Daily Reminders for a Stellar Year

15 For 2015
Daily Reminders for a Stellar Year
By Jerry Posner

1.   Sometimes a single act of kindness changes everything.
2.   Appreciate and treasure each moment … especially this one.
3.   Need courage? Recall inspirational people and their deeds.
4.   Preparation reduces fear and shrinks worry.
5.   Angry? Count to twenty, slowly. Still angry? Do it again.
6.   Expect miracles.
(If that doesn’t work, notice the ones that already exist.)
7.   Gratitude: feel it, express it, promote it. Be a grati-tutor!
8.   More facts = better beliefs.
9.   Message from your Future-Self: love more, kvetch less.
10. If it’s too difficult to forgive and forget, just choose one.
11.  Put on your (rational) thinking cap … and leave it on.
12. Courtesy is fundamental, indifference is the enemy.
13. Choose your attitude; many fine options available now.
14. Positive expectations just might skew the odds in your favor.
15. What we do, and how we do it, always matters.

“Since there’s always a choice … choose wisely!”

14 For 2014 — Daily Reminders for a Stellar Year

14 For 2014 — Daily Reminders for a Stellar Year

By Jerry Posner

1. Consider the possibility that nothing is insignificant.

2. A little thanks and appreciation can go a long, long way.

3. Teach people how to love … by example.

4. Count your blessings and write ’em down, a few every day.

5. Do something today that your future-self will thank you for.

6. Know your biases. Dump the crappy ones!

7. Allow for unplanned miracles.

8. Tell at least one person a day, “I love you and I’m glad you’re here.”

9. Good deeds make magic.

10. The best apologies contain no excuses.

11. We owe our existence to the kindness of strangers … and parents.

12. Taking things for granted is the opposite of gratitude — so don’t!

13. Where am I now? Where am I headed? Is a course-correction necessary?

14. Do what makes you feel proud.

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And here’s a link to the card:

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13 for 2013 – Daily Reminders for a Stellar Year

13 For 2013 — Daily Reminders for a Stellar Year
By Jerry Posner

1. Walk, don’t jump to conclusions.

 
2. Feeling stressed? Take a “gratitude break.”

 
3. “Mind the gap” – increase awareness of the space between stimulus and response – and CHOOSE your responses.

 
4. Banish old negative, stupid biases. Nurture groovy ones!

 
5. Generate positive, constructive self-fulfilling prophesies.

 
6. Avoid assumptions – ask good questions … listen carefully.

 
7. Be thankful for the millions and millions of people who do their jobs so we can do ours.

 
8. Great to count blessings, even better to write them down.

 
9. Brightening someone’s day will brighten yours as well.

 
10. Practice doesn’t make perfect … practice makes habits.

 
11. Demonstrate and feel love instead of just talking about it.

 
12. Plant seeds every day. Keep planting. They will eventually sprout. Water them with intention and attention.

 
13. Skate to where the puck is going, not where it’s at. (Gretzky)

 

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“Since there’s always a choice … choose wisely!”
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MY CANCER ADVENTURE – Episode 11 – “Am I Cured?”

MY CANCER ADVENTURE
Episode 11
“Am I Cured?”

Confirmation biasthe tendency to find evidence that supports or confirms one’s beliefs, expectations, notions, points-of-view, etc. This bias can be positive or negative, constructive or destructive.

Self-fulfilling prophecya statement or mindset that modifies or alters behaviors and actions, to become true. Self-fulfilling prophecies can also be positive or negative, constructive of destructive.

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During the follow-up visit with my surgeon, I asked him, “When people ask if I’m cured, what should I say?”

He replied, “probably.”

The likelihood of being cancer-free after my surgery is very, very high, but it can’t be determined with absolute certainty … yet.

I will have a PSA test twice yearly for five years.

At the beginning of this adventure, I made a prophecy: “somehow this will make me a better person.” I could have just as easily predicted that my life would be miserable, and I suppose I could have created that outcome as well.

In the mean time, I am feeling quite good and except for a couple of ‘plumbing’ issues (which will resolve in time), functioning normally.

I am fortunate. This is my chosen “confirmation bias” – created and nurtured over 30 years of consciously choosing optimism over pessimism. Though I was not always successful, the long-term positive outlook eventually became my brain’s default setting.

Good thing.

I could see myself as an “unlucky” person to have had cancer … or a “lucky” person to have caught it early enough, before it spread beyond the prostate.

When you decide to see yourself as a fortunate, blessed, “lucky” person … you will find evidence everywhere! This may take some practice, but it’s definitely worth it – especially during challenging times. Easiest way? Once a day, write down five things that make you feel grateful.

This will probably be the last chapter in “My Cancer Adventure” series for a while. If there are any significant updates, I will keep you, my valued friends and readers, in the loop.

And speaking of valued friends and readers … I am so very grateful for your kind and generous support. Your prayers and positive thoughts mean the world to me. Most of all, my wife Lynne gets the lion’s share of the credit for the relative smoothness of this “adventure.” Our five-year wedding anniversary is next month – truly the very best five years of my life.

Much love,
Jerry

PS: I have created a new workshop and keynote speech for businesses, organizations and events – WAYS TO SUCCESSFULLY NAVIGATE ADVERSITY: What To Do When Things Don’t Exactly Go Your Way. If you’re interested, send me an e-mail – posgroup@aol.com

Thanks, and very best wishes to you and yours!