SOME THOUGHTS ON MIRACLES, LUCK AND THE BUTTERFLY EFFECT

by Jerry Posner

First, some questions to ask yourself:

In my life, how would I define “good luck” or “miracles?”

Do I believe in the possibility of those favorable outcomes?

What could I do that would increase the likelihood of the outcomes I most desire?

How much control or influence do I have, to skew the “odds” in my favor? 

Am I interested in creating trends … or specific outcomes … or both?

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Write down goals and desired outcomes.  Review daily.  Edit as you see fit.

Consider the trajectory, causal factors, that resulted in already experienced miracles or “good luck.”

Be intentional with choices. Long term or short term outcomes?  Patience is often necessary.

(Every outcome results in more outcomes.  There is always “what will happen next?”)

Create as many positive relationships as possible.  Be kind, polite, generous, helpful, compassionate.

Self-identify as a “lucky” or “grateful” or “blessed” person.  See yourself as a “probability engineer.”

Be a very good listener.  Be open to new experiences.

Be present and aware of your surroundings.  Notice “chance” opportunities that often arise.

Placebos and “good luck charms” have been known to influence behavior, mindset and outcomes.

Self-fulfilling prophecies, based on belief, can influence actions.  Choose positive expectations.

Take advantage of “freerolls.”  “The key feature of a freeroll is limited downside, meaning there isn’t much to lose, but there might be a lot to gain.”  (Annie Duke)

Maybe you ARE the luckiest person in the room!

It’s good to have an open mind, but not SO open that your brains fall out!  Cultivate realistic optimism.

©2020 Jerry D. Posner  •  jerryposner@icloud.com  •  http://www.jerryposner.com 

12 For 2012 – Daily Reminders for a Stellar Year

12 For 2012 – Daily Reminders for a Stellar Year

by Jerry Posner

 

1.  Keep goals right up front.  Review daily.

2.  Appreciation, forgiveness, compassion: excellent options.

3.  Aim for no regrets.

4.  Increase awareness of stress triggers and disconnect ’em.

5.  Inspire yourself … inspire others.

6.  Inspire others … inspire yourself.

7.  Simple acts of kindness – superb cost/benefit ratio.

8.  Keep a “to-do” list and a “not-to-do” list.

9.  Great daily choices create great habits, that’s what we want.

10. Increase emotional intelligence.  Make a list of feelings you’d like to experience more frequently.  Put your attention on your list once a day.  Edit and revise as you see fit.

11. Express more love than in previous years.

12. Take a daily gratitude break.

13. Give your customer an unexpected little something extra!

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Click on the link below to download the card.

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My new book is published!

I am delighted that my new book, ETERNAL COSMIC WISDOM AT BARGAIN BASEMENT PRICES is available on Amazon.com … and also available for the Kindle. Deep, lighthearted, profound and fun … all the the same time! But most of all – practical.

The book:

The Kindle version:

Ways To Create Miracles In Your Life – Revised

Ways To Create Miracles In Your Life

By Jerry D. Posner

Here’s a three-step process with a fine track record!

This is the revised version.

Step One:  Pick a miracle — a positive outcome in some area of you life that is important to you.  It could be about business, relationships, finance, family, personal growth, creativity.  I’d suggest a small or medium sized miracle – those are much easier to create!  Write it down.

Step Two:  Make sure you really want it.

Ask yourself “Brain – Heart – Courage” questions, such as:

• What are my thoughts about this miracle?  Are they positive?  Conflicted?

• Can I imagine it, and imagine the impact to my life?

• How much do I want it?

• Does the thought of it make my heart sing?

• Do I have the courage to act?  To risk disappointment?

• Do I have the courage to ask for it?  To accept it?

If you’re happy with your answers, then proceed to …

Step Three:  Eight suggestions or reminders to be practiced, in some appropriate combination, DAILY!

•  Visualize the outcome … and the path to it.  Visualize the steps you need to take.  Break it up into small, smart actions.  Also visualize yourself removing obstacles and solving problems that could come up.

•  Desire it.  Maintain enthusiasm, excitement and emotional focus.

•  Anticipate it.  Expect it.  Believe in it.  Some miracles require faith, hope, and patience.

•  Ask for assistance, and accept the help when it is offered.  Networking, emotional support, cheerleaders, prayer, Google, mentors …

•  Put your miracle on your “to-do” list.  Remind yourself daily.

•  Choose optimism and remember your motivations — your reasons for wanting to create this miracle.

•  Give yourself permission to have it.  You just might be the one blocking it!  Need more deserve-ability?  Simply take a file card, write or print PERMISSION SLIP on it.  Meditate on the card for a minute or two every day.  By the way, you do not have to be a “perfect person” in order to create a miracle.  There’s not one person who has ever received or created a miracle who is a “perfect person.”

•  Make a plan, adjust as necessary. Be aware of feedback that comes from others, and from your own observations.  Evaluate feedback WITHOUT becoming defensive!  Enjoy the process!

PUT YOUR MIND TO IT.

PRACTICE.

STAY THE COURSE.

“There are many millions of people who would say that most everything about your life, right now, is a miracle.

Are you one of them?”

Take Some Positive Action

The most practical and profound wisdom is often simple, obvious and readily available to us. Let’s recognize it, remember it, reinforce it … and take some positive action as a result of it!

 

Great ideas are cheap and plentiful.  We are exposed to them all the time.  Even the amazing, transformational right-on-target ones.  Why do we ignore them?  Forget them?  Take them for granted?

I don’t know those specific “whys” – they probably don’t even matter too much.

What I do know is this:  remembering and reinforcing the “great ideas” that inspire “enlightened actions” is one of the best “ideas!”

A Bit of Forgiveness

All-Purpose FORGIVENESS TOOLS by Jerry Posner


Forgiveness for my own worst mistakes,

forgiveness to the neighbor who forgets to return my rake.

Forgiveness for dads, moms, sisters. brothers,

forgiveness for bad bosses and stock market losses.

Forgiveness for my own human imperfections,

forgiveness for abandonments and rejections.

Who gets FORGIVEN?

Mama and Daddy-O.

Friends.

Some enemies, too.

Loved ones who died.

The good people I’ve rejected.

Everyone else, if I want

Moi.

Knuckleheads and Boopsies

Insecure Shrinking Violets and Insecure Control Freaks

The Sad Man

Offspring, Siblings, Queens and Kings

Drama Geeks and Icarus Wings

Lousy Bosses

The Wayward Humiliators

Bad Dancers

Flower Blooming Hippies

Why FORGIVE?

It transforms EVERY relationship!  That’s right!  Just one act of forgiveness sets the famed “butterfly effect” into motion, and ALL relationships are given a positive boost (sometimes small, sometimes huge) since YOU are also giving yourself the positive boost!

It makes you feel really great!

It is excellent karma.

It changes mental focus, putting things into a more workable perspective, and sometimes triggering fits of cosmic consciousness enlightenment along with uninhibited happy-dancing!

Just goes to show you just how much transformational power you really do have!

FORGIVENESS PROMOTES LOVE

Thoughtfulness promotes love.

“Being the bigger person” promotes love.

Empathy, caring and compassion promote love.

Understanding, self and otherwise, promotes love.

Love promotes love.

Having fun, promotes love.

“Letting it go,” promotes love … and a feeling of healing.

WAYS TO PARTICIPATE IN THE GREAT FORGIVENESS:

1.  Get a little card and write, “I love and forgive  _________________.

Fill in the blank with the name of the person you’d most like to forgive.  Read the card three times daily.  FEEL the forgiveness as you read it.

2.  Think:  FIX, NOT FAULT.

3.  Go easy on the drama.

4.  Repeat this Stuart-Smalley-sounding mantra for five or ten minutes, two or three times daily:  I forgive myself.  My self forgives me.  I forgive others, and others forgive me.

Another one:  I am an electrode of love and forgiveness.

5.  Remember that I sometimes project the movie of my own nonsense on the movie screens of others, and that it might be a good idea to stop it.

6.  Pretend that you are truly and finally forgiven for your blunders, and that your job on Earth is to forgive everyone else for theirs.  This is just a “pretend” exercise, please don’t debate me on this one.  Thank you!

7.  Be at peace.  Relax.  Breathe.  Think positive thoughts.  Have an ice cream.  Lactose intolerant?  Have a cookie!

Practicing the Practical Power of Gratitude

Practicing the Practical Power of Gratitude

By Jerry Posner www.jerryposner.com

Thanksgiving, 2009

I like easy ways to make life better … and I prefer “the specific” as opposed to “the vague.”

I like “cliché-like wisdom.” and I prefer stuff that works. That’s why I practice the practical power of gratitude!

“Practicing” strongly suggests “doing something” – not just once or twice, but repeatedly.

What to practice?

  1. FEELING GRATEFUL for the good things, the love, the laughs, the lessons, the people, the opportunities, the help, the stuff, the miracles, the food, the music, the technology, etc.
  2. EXPRESSING GRATITUDE for the good things, the love, the laughs, the lessons, the people, the opportunities, the help,    the stuff, the miracles, the food, the music, the technology, etc.

How do you FEEL when you feel grateful?

Happy? Peaceful? Blessed? Centered? Generous? Secure? Calm?

This year, when you have holiday dinner with family or friends, suggest that “we go around the table and everyone say one thing that we’re really, really thankful for.” It will invariably make everyone smile, and voila – a little more harmony, less bickering, better digestion, perhaps!

This works in business meetings as well. Start your meeting by going around the room and have everyone share one thing they love (or like) about their work. One technique I use is to ask the attendees to name the thing they would miss the most if they left. Often, the answer is “the people.”  And that makes “the people” feel good!

Thinking and expressing thankful thoughts, and amplifying feelings of gratitude can reduce stress … improve relationships … and minimize pettiness!

You can’t lose with gratitude!

Thank your customers, coworkers, friends, and family. Thank your vendors, suppliers, supporters and fans! Be liberal and generous with your gratitude.  Do it all year round.

Write yourself some gratitude-oriented “focus phrases” (reminders) on cards and sticky-notes, and put them where you’ll see them every day.

For example:

I CHOOSE TO EXPRESS GRATITUDE GENEROUSLY AND LIBERALLY.

I EASILY AND REGULARLY GIVE THANKS.

I FEEL GRATEFUL FOR ALL OF MY GIFTS AND BLESSINGS.

EXPRESSING GRATITUDE MAKES ME FEEL GOOD.

Because of others, we are where we are today. We’ve had LOTS of assistance. Do we remember? Are we thankful for them? Here’s a fun and enlightening “grati-tool” –- make a list of 15 people who have helped you get to where you are right now.

We might be reminded of that kind childhood neighbor, or high school guidance counselor whose caring changed the course of our life. When we remember how kind and generous people have been in our lives, we might be inspired to pass it on, or “pay it forward.”  We might even reclaim some memories of our personal history that we’d forgotten.

So, thank the people! Show some appreciation for them. Send thank-you notes. Tell the people you love, that you love them. Don’t wait until it’s too late.

If you want to better manage your moods and attitudes … if you want to be less cranky, less petty, and more openhearted … or if you want to experience your own point-of-view transformation, experiment with THE GRATITUDE BREAK. First, select something specific about your life that you are truly, deeply thankful for (person, condition, or thing). Then … close your eyes (not while you’re driving, please) and spend just one minute thinking about, and vividly imagining, that person, condition or thing. FEEL the gratitude as you visualize!

Try a gratitude break once a day, and see what happens! Twice a day would be an interesting experiment.

A favorite “grati-tool” is THE GRATITUDE JOURNAL (a.k.a. “Five Good Things”). Here’s what to do: every day (that would be DAILY), write down five things you are grateful for. They can be deep … shallow … serious … funny … spiritual … material.

Just list five things you’re grateful for on paper or computer. Not in your head. Write them down.

Over time, when you write your “daily five,” you’ll inevitably experience some awareness and behavior changes (and probably feel more happiness, too). Focusing attention on “your good stuff” every day, builds a habit of NOTICING MORE “good stuff” — and making choices RESULTING in more “good stuff!”

During challenging times, regular focus on gratitude can restore much needed balance. Not to deny the adversity, but to remember that there are wonderful things and opportunities available as well.

Make every day, a day of Thanksgiving. So many benefits … so small a cost!

A WEDDING ANNIVERSARY SYNCHRONICITY

A WEDDING ANNIVERSARY SYNCHRONICITY

Lynne and I decided to go to MASS MOCA (Museum of Contemporary Art) in North Adams as a part of our second wedding anniversary celebration.  We were going to go to the museum first thing in the morning, then have lunch as Jae’s Inn, also in North Adams, but we changed our minds and chose lunch first, museum later.

After lunch, I noticed a woman working at Jae’s who looked familiar.  Speaking with her, it turned out she was the daughter of an old friend of mine, who was also working there.  I hadn’t seen the daughter or her mom in 16 years or so, so we had a lovely chat. The mom, Patty Boynton, also figured into a recent chance conversation I had with the manager of the Holiday Inn, Salem, NH, Molly Mulholland.

Because I was staying in Molly’s hotel … because I was presenting a seminar for Margaritas Restaurant in the same building … because, because, because … I got into an extended conversation with Ms. Mulholland, and discovered she had lived in the Berkshires, and that we had a mind-boggling quantity of mutual friends, associates and colleagues – including Patty Boynton (whom, as mentioned, I hadn’t seen in about 16 years).

So, after that fun and unexpected reunion, Lynne and I headed to the museum.  While we were in line to pay for admission, a young couple were laughing because the guy’s wedding ring fell off of his finger, and rolled onto the floor.  The woman laughed and mentioned something about how funny this was, the ring falling off on this, their anniversary.  Yes, it was their second wedding anniversary also.

What are the odds of two couples celebrating their second wedding anniversaries on the exact same day, standing next to each other in line at Mass MOCA?

And, of course, we wouldn’t have known about their anniversary, if the guy’s ring didn’t fall off of his finger at that precise moment!

So, as in all “synchronicities” or “low probability meaningful events” there are many factors that conspire to create the result.  Right place at right time suggests every little decision, all delays, traffic flow, chance meetings, etc., can “create” or “put the kibosh” on any possible result.

Do you enjoy these “synchronicities” or “meaningful coincidences” in your life?  If so, keep a log or journal of them … you’ll probably “notice” or “create” many more of them!