Ways to Make 2015, Your Best Year! – Lecture Notes
We start with who we are, where we are, what we have to work with … NOW!
Attitude, perspective, point-of-view might be just as important as the “things
What might be some elements of ‘your best year?’
What is important, meaningful to you now?
What would you like to change … improve … accomplish?
How would you like to feel?
What ignites your passion?
What triggers your happiness and joy?
Focus on the things that you CAN control or manage. Choices, attitudes, actions, behaviors, etc.
Seek the appropriate balance between PLEASURE and PURPOSE.
“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to
choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” — Dr. Viktor Frankl
So … MIND THE GAP!
Emotions are contagious!
You can catch them, and others can catch them from you!
So, it pays to manage emotions, to know what you’re feeling and your emotional targets.
Make a “To-Feel List” — List of feelings or emotional states you want more often. Review regularly.
For example: happy, joyful, proud, enthusiastic, confident, grateful,
compassionate, smart, lucky, appreciative, creative, energetic, professional,
calm, hopeful, positive, serene, helpful, loved, valued.
Three other very helpful lists:
• To-Do List (of course!) – Today’s Mission
• Gratitude Journal
• Inspiration List
Choose a few key words/short phrases – THEMES – to influence attitude, mood, behavior, choices.
Some examples: Listen. Love more. Compassion. Kindness. Calm. Gratitude.
Grace. Faith. Flow. Patience. Acceptance. Balance. Forgiveness. Resilience. Rational.
Honesty. Mindfulness. Ambition. Courage. Laugh more. Eat healthy. Optimism. Serenity. Exercise. Meditate. Peace. Walk, don’t jump, to conclusions. Confidence. Joy. Service.
To achieve specific goals: Break them down into small, workable steps.
“What will I do TODAY?”
“PRACTICE MAKES HABITS” – to create a new habit, link it to an existing one.
These “R’s” could help!
Recognize (what you need to do, think, feel. Having a practical plan is smart)
Remember (write down the goal and your action plan. Read it daily)
Reinforce (with action … practice … repetition … reward yourself)
Review (observe results and feedback … modify your plan as needed or desired)
Repeat (the stuff that works best for you)
“Do something. If it works, do more of it. If it doesn’t, do something else.”
— Franklin D. Roosevelt